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Mary Gorham Malia

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Mary G. Malia, founder of Gay Girl Dating Coach, is a certified singles coach, strategic intervention coach and author of the book "The Gay Girl’s Guide to Avoid the 14 Dating Traps.” | Connect with Mary on Google+.
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10 Things Single Lesbians NEED to Know About Online Dating
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10 Things Single Lesbians NEED to Know About Online Dating

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 9/8/14

There are 1,000,000 lesbians using online dating sites in the U.S. every day. Yes, that’s right - 1,000,000.
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Is Interracial Dating Harder When You’re Lesbian?
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Is Interracial Dating Harder When You’re Lesbian?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 7/24/14

Lesbian dating is a complicated sport. Interracial lesbian dating may or may not be more complicated, but it’s a...(read more)

The 2 Essential Sex Toys Every Lesbian Needs
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The 2 Essential Sex Toys Every Lesbian Needs

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 7/14/14

Yes, this is my opinion. The chief of the Lesbian Global Tribe may disagree with me, but I think toys are great and...(read more)

The Impact OITNB Has on Lesbian Dating
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The Impact OITNB Has on Lesbian Dating

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 6/30/14

Lesbian prison dating! Did you know this was happening?
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8 Cliche Lesbian Dating Questions Answered
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8 Cliche Lesbian Dating Questions Answered

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 6/19/14

Cliches are ideas that have gone around for so long that you start thinking they are true. When it comes to lesbian...(read more)

How to Win Over Your Disapproving Father-In-Law
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How to Win Over Your Disapproving Father-In-Law

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 6/5/14

You’re finally married to your lesbian sweetheart, but your father-in-law isn’t exactly warm and cuddly about the...(read more)

Lesbians Get Friend-Zoned Too (And It Sucks)
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Lesbians Get Friend-Zoned Too (And It Sucks)

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 5/22/14

If you’ve been out and about with lesbians for any length of time, you’ve heard about the lesbian friend zone.
...(read more)

The (Real) Truth About Butch vs Femme
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The (Real) Truth About Butch vs Femme

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 5/17/14

Butch versus femme isn’t real because butches and femmes don’t see themselves as competing against each other.
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Can You Still Be in Love Even If She Drives You Crazy?
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Can You Still Be in Love Even If She Drives You Crazy?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 5/10/14

Can two lesbians be in love and not compatible? Love is one thing and compatibility is another, so the quick and dirty...(read more)

5 Ways You’re Being a Bitch to Lipstick Lesbians
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5 Ways You’re Being a Bitch to Lipstick Lesbians

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/30/14

Lipstick lesbians, or shall we say feminine-looking lesbians, have a hard time getting dates with lesbians. Most...(read more)

So She’s Not Over Her Ex Yet – Is It Worth Sticking Around?
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So She’s Not Over Her Ex Yet – Is It Worth Sticking Around?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/23/14

Probably every single lesbian has experienced this at least once in her life. Either you couldn’t move on or you are...(read more)

My Secrets for Giving Great Lesbian Oral Sex
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My Secrets for Giving Great Lesbian Oral Sex

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/15/14

The gold mine of lesbian sex is oral sex. It’s luscious, tasty and a totally mind-altering experience when it’s...(read more)

I Want to Meet a Nice Woman. Can You Help?
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I Want to Meet a Nice Woman. Can You Help?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/11/14

Reader Question:
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The 7 Right Ways to Play Hard to Get with a Lesbian
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The 7 Right Ways to Play Hard to Get with a Lesbian

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/9/14

One of the questions I get asked most often from lesbians is how to go slow. Going slow means waiting to jump into bed,...(read more)

We’re Both Gay. Should I Make a Move?
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We’re Both Gay. Should I Make a Move?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/4/14

Reader Question:
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You Realized You’re Lesbian and You’re Married
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You Realized You’re Lesbian and You’re Married

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/1/14

Women around the world wake up every day and realize their marriage isn’t working and it’s because they are...(read more)

My Ex is Sleeping with Someone. Am I Wrong to Be Mad?
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My Ex is Sleeping with Someone. Am I Wrong to Be Mad?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/28/14

Reader Question:
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I Don’t Know If She Likes Me Back. Is She Just Using Me?
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I Don’t Know If She Likes Me Back. Is She Just Using Me?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/21/14

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Your First Lesbian Love
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Your First Lesbian Love

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/21/14

Wow, right? It’s an amazing feeling when you fall in love as a lesbian for the first time.
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I’ve Developed Feelings for Her. Is She Into Me?
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I’ve Developed Feelings for Her. Is She Into Me?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/14/14

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Break the Lesbian Dating Code with Body Language
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Break the Lesbian Dating Code with Body Language

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/13/14

The first language you learn as a human being is body language. You learn to read your mother’s facial expressions and...(read more)

The First Date is Over. Now What?
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The First Date is Over. Now What?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/7/14

First dates can be really nerve-racking, especially if you already have an inkling that you may like this fabulous new...(read more)

Why Instant Chemistry Isn’t That Important
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Why Instant Chemistry Isn’t That Important

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 2/27/14

Chemistry is important. You want to feel attraction for the lesbian you’re dating.
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Are You Accepting Crumbs in Your Relationship?
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Are You Accepting Crumbs in Your Relationship?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 2/10/14

Being a lesbian doesn’t mean you should accept less than the best in a relationship. That’s not the world we live in...(read more)

Is She Playing Mind Games?
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Is She Playing Mind Games?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 2/7/14

Reader Question:
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It’s Not You. It’s Me…and That Other Lesbian
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It’s Not You. It’s Me…and That Other Lesbian

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 2/4/14

Most of us have heard this phrase at some point in our lives, and it will rock your world in the worst way.
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Does Sexually Experimenting with Both Sexes Make Me Bi?
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Does Sexually Experimenting with Both Sexes Make Me Bi?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/31/14

There’s a lot of advice out there for hetero dating and much more now on gay dating, but the bisexual world doesn’t...(read more)

Our Relationship Ended. How Is It So Easy to Walk Away?
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Our Relationship Ended. How Is It So Easy to Walk Away?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/31/14

Reader Question:
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Your First Kiss Post-Breakup. Are You Sure You’re Ready?
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Your First Kiss Post-Breakup. Are You Sure You’re Ready?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/25/14

Did your lesbian relationship come to a crashing end during the holidays? It happened for lots of lesbians.
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We Broke Up But She Still Flirts. What Should I Do?
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We Broke Up But She Still Flirts. What Should I Do?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/24/14

Reader Question:
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The Lone Ranger Syndrome
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The Lone Ranger Syndrome

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/23/14

You know the ones, the Lone Ranger lesbian. You rarely see her around and she doesn’t really show up for anything that...(read more)

My Two Lovers Passed Away. How Do I Start Over?
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My Two Lovers Passed Away. How Do I Start Over?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/3/14

Reader Question:
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3 Ways to Survive a Holiday Breakup
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3 Ways to Survive a Holiday Breakup

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 12/23/13

It happened. She broke up with you.
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How to Get Through the Holidays with Your Girlfriend
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How to Get Through the Holidays with Your Girlfriend

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 12/17/13

It’s right here and right now - we are deep into the holiday season. Hanukkah has finished and now we move on to the...(read more)

Buying Christmas Presents for Your New Girlfriend
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Buying Christmas Presents for Your New Girlfriend

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 12/11/13

My rule of thumb here is to only spend what you’re comfortable losing. What do I mean by this?
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Why are Lesbian Breakups Peaking?
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Why are Lesbian Breakups Peaking?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 12/4/13

The holidays are wonderful and tough. There’s the magical part of the holidays: music, romance, gifts, time with...(read more)

Should I Get Back Together with My Girlfriend?
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Should I Get Back Together with My Girlfriend?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 11/8/13

Reader Question:
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How to Kick Shyness’ Ass
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How to Kick Shyness’ Ass

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 11/5/13

Being shy is painful. It keeps you trapped and unable to live life and enjoy the endless possibilities that come from...(read more)

I Want to Talk with My Neighbor. What Should I Do?
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I Want to Talk with My Neighbor. What Should I Do?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 11/1/13

Reader Question:
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What Do Lesbians Really Want?
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What Do Lesbians Really Want?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 11/1/13

It’s a privilege to be invited into the process of helping a woman recreate her life through dating coaching.
...(read more)

Did She Break Up with You? Here’s What You Need to Do
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Did She Break Up with You? Here’s What You Need to Do

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 10/15/13

Relationships end - it happens a lot. Sometimes seemingly before they get started, they are over.
...(read more)

The Amazing Thing About First Dates
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The Amazing Thing About First Dates

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 10/10/13

First dates can be amazing, awful or somewhere in between.
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I’m a Pre-Op Transsexual. How Do I Go About Meeting Women?
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I’m a Pre-Op Transsexual. How Do I Go About Meeting Women?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 9/27/13

Reader Question:
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How Do Senior Lesbians Meet Senior Lesbians?
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How Do Senior Lesbians Meet Senior Lesbians?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 9/20/13

Reader Question:
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My Lesbian Girlfriend Wants an Open Relationship
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My Lesbian Girlfriend Wants an Open Relationship

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 9/18/13

So your girlfriend wants an open relationship and you're not sure if you can do it. Do you want help with this...(read more)

Should I Share My Sexual Preferences?
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Should I Share My Sexual Preferences?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 9/14/13

Lesbian sexual preferences can be a difficult conversation to have.
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My Lesbian Love is Always Talking About Her Ex
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My Lesbian Love is Always Talking About Her Ex

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 9/4/13

Are you crazy in love with your new girlfriend, but she won't stop talking about her ex?
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How to Make Lesbian Dating Fun
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How to Make Lesbian Dating Fun

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 8/27/13

Lesbians ask me all the time how to know if a date went well.
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Do You Want a Pen Pal or a Girlfriend?
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Do You Want a Pen Pal or a Girlfriend?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 8/16/13

You took the dive. You put up a profile on an online dating site. Now what do you do?
...(read more)

I’m a Lesbian with a Disablity. Can You Help Me?
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I’m a Lesbian with a Disablity. Can You Help Me?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 8/9/13

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Is Your Lesbian Girlfriend BTN?
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Is Your Lesbian Girlfriend BTN?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 8/2/13

BTN? What’s that? “Better Than Nothing!”
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How to Kiss a Lesbian and Turn Her On
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How to Kiss a Lesbian and Turn Her On

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 7/27/13

Just the thought takes me back to the first time I kissed a woman.
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Can Lesbian Summer Camp Help Your Dating Life?
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Can Lesbian Summer Camp Help Your Dating Life?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 7/17/13

There is no question that you expect a lot from your partner in a relationship nowadays.
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How to Avoid Lesbian Mind Games
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How to Avoid Lesbian Mind Games

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 7/9/13

We all play head games. Some of us just play head games with women we date, but all of us play head games with...(read more)

5 Ways to Tell She’s a Lesbian
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5 Ways to Tell She’s a Lesbian

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 6/26/13

"How do I know if the woman I'm interested in is lesbian?" This is a question I hear often from lesbians who are new or...(read more)

Online Dating – The Lesbian Way
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Online Dating – The Lesbian Way

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 6/13/13

Does online dating work for lesbians? Of course it does.
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Watch Out for This Lesbian Dating Trap
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Watch Out for This Lesbian Dating Trap

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 6/7/13

You’ve been out a few times now with a charming lesbian.
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The Key to Having Good Lesbian Sex for the First Time
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The Key to Having Good Lesbian Sex for the First Time

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 6/1/13

Lesbian sex for the first time! I know, you can hardly stand waiting another day!
...(read more)

How to Tell Your Children You’re Lesbian
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How to Tell Your Children You’re Lesbian

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 5/26/13

As more and more lesbians live openly, more studies are being done to determine what, if any, affect being raised by a...(read more)

9 Ways to Win Your Lesbian Lover Back
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9 Ways to Win Your Lesbian Lover Back

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 5/18/13

First, I just have to ask: Why do you want her back?
...(read more)

Should I Be Sexting My Lesbian Girlfriend?
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Should I Be Sexting My Lesbian Girlfriend?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 5/8/13

You’ve met her — the woman of your dreams! She might be butch, femme, lipstick, sporty or boi, but she’s hot and...(read more)

Is it Time to Have Sex with Your New Lesbian Girlfriend?
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Is it Time to Have Sex with Your New Lesbian Girlfriend?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 5/4/13

Wow, that’s a big question isn’t it? It's sort of loaded with nervous tension and excitement.
...(read more)

Remember Ellen DeGeneres and Anne Heche? How to Date Bisexual Women
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Remember Ellen DeGeneres and Anne Heche? How to Date Bisexual Women

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/24/13

She’s not only attractive, but she’s sort of feminine. You really liked that about her.
...(read more)

4 Steps to Breaking Out of Lesbian Lonely Land
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4 Steps to Breaking Out of Lesbian Lonely Land

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/12/13

Loneliness — is it an attitude or a place? I know you see it as a feeling.
...(read more)

Should You Stay Friends with an Ex-Girlfriend?
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Should You Stay Friends with an Ex-Girlfriend?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 4/4/13

If you’re over fourteen, you’ve probably got an ex-girlfriend. Any lesbian worth her salt has a few exes lying...(read more)

When Lesbian Dating Turns Into a Mini Marriage
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When Lesbian Dating Turns Into a Mini Marriage

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/29/13

If you've done any dating at all as a lesbian, you've probably done the mini marriage.
...(read more)

Does Being Out Affect Your Dating Chances?
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Does Being Out Affect Your Dating Chances?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/22/13

Does being out affect your ability to get dates? It sure does. And it affects your ability to keep a date coming back.
...(read more)

Your Lesbian Dating Past
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Your Lesbian Dating Past

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/16/13

Guess what, if we just started dating, I probably don’t want to hear about your lesbian dating past on our first...(read more)

I Can’t Get Her Out of My Mind. Is It Wrong to Be a Hopeless Romantic?
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I Can’t Get Her Out of My Mind. Is It Wrong to Be a Hopeless Romantic?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/15/13

Reader Question:
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3 Steps for Introducing Yourself to Lesbian Women
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3 Steps for Introducing Yourself to Lesbian Women

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/9/13

Introducing yourself to that hot lesbian you spied out doesn’t have to be hard or scary. Let me share three steps for...(read more)

Lesbian Online Dating Requires Tough Love
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Lesbian Online Dating Requires Tough Love

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 3/3/13

No, I’m not kidding. I know you are saying to yourself, "Online dating is tough." Well, that’s why you need to...(read more)

Where Are the Lesbians? They Are Online!
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Where Are the Lesbians? They Are Online!

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 2/23/13

You’re a single lesbian and you want a relationship. You want a date with a single lesbian and you’re wondering...(read more)

3 Ways to Tell a Lesbian is Interested in You
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3 Ways to Tell a Lesbian is Interested in You

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 2/16/13

Is that hot lesbian lady interested in you, gay girl? Well here are three ways to know if you should make an approach.
...(read more)

The #1 Reason Lesbians Should Celebrate Valentine’s Day
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The #1 Reason Lesbians Should Celebrate Valentine’s Day

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 2/9/13

You might be surprised to learn Valentine’s Day originates from the actions of a pioneering and brave man who decided...(read more)

How to Date a Lesbian with Dogs
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How to Date a Lesbian with Dogs

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 2/2/13

Dogs are their own version of love machines. They are loyal and true. They never lie or cheat.
...(read more)

Are You a Lesbian? Are You Coming Out?
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Are You a Lesbian? Are You Coming Out?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/27/13

Celesbians isn’t a term you’ll find in the dictionary...yet. And if you’re lesbian, you know who the celebrities...(read more)

Where Can Marriage-Minded Lesbians Go to Get Married?
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Where Can Marriage-Minded Lesbians Go to Get Married?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/16/13

What’s a marriage-minded lesbian to do when she wants to get married but lives in a state that still hates LGBT people...(read more)

Dating Lesbians and Coming Out Stories
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Dating Lesbians and Coming Out Stories

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/12/13

Coming out stories are part of our culture as lesbians. We all have one. Your story may be pretty short or pretty long....(read more)

Dating Older Lesbians is More Fun
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Dating Older Lesbians is More Fun

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/6/13

It might have surprised you. You were out with friends and she walked into the room. She might not have even noticed...(read more)

Lesbian Dating Doesn’t Have to Be Discouraging
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Lesbian Dating Doesn’t Have to Be Discouraging

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 1/1/13

It’s the new year again. You’re still single. You’re discouraged. You’re done with online dating. You don’t go...(read more)

What to Bring and Not Bring on Your First Trip
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What to Bring and Not Bring on Your First Trip

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 12/22/12

This is it. Finally you’re hitting the road with that gorgeous lesbian you’ve been dating. Or maybe you’ve finally...(read more)

Holiday Shopping for Lesbians Who are Dating
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Holiday Shopping for Lesbians Who are Dating

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 12/13/12

It’s so exciting to be dating someone special when the holidays arrive. It’s all so much fun, but I’m going to...(read more)

Make it a Lesbian Holiday!
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Make it a Lesbian Holiday!

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 12/4/12

Don’t you agree? Some of you are already on this bandwagon and you’ve been riding it for years. But many women are...(read more)

Where, Oh Where Are the Lesbians?
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Where, Oh Where Are the Lesbians?

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 11/14/12

Gay women are everywhere but we’ve yet to start adorning ourselves with a scarlet “L” on our foreheads. We’re...(read more)

Lesbians, Listen Up: Two Dates Does Not Mean We’re a Couple
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Lesbians, Listen Up: Two Dates Does Not Mean We’re a Couple

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 11/9/12

Are you listening to this? Two dates doesn’t mean we’re a couple! That’s way too soon, even if the sex is great....(read more)

Real-World Advice for Lesbian Love
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Real-World Advice for Lesbian Love

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 11/6/12

If you’ve spent any time browsing the net for advice about lesbian relationships, you’ve probably run into plenty of...(read more)

Lesbian Dating Rule #1
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Lesbian Dating Rule #1

By: Mary Gorham Malia • 11/1/12

The first and most important rule to dating in our little lesbian world is know thyself above all else. It seems...(read more)

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