Mary Gorham Malia

Most first dates don’t become second dates. Then most second dates don’t become third dates, so by the time you are...(read more)

I meet women regularly who describe themselves as bisexual and who want to date lesbians, but they often find it hard to...(read more)

There was chemistry, attraction and a few fireworks. You made out in the parking lot so long you lost track of time. You...(read more)

There are 1,000,000 lesbians using online dating sites in the U.S. every day. Yes, that’s right - 1,000,000.
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Lesbian dating is a complicated sport. Interracial lesbian dating may or may not be more complicated, but it’s a...(read more)

Yes, this is my opinion. The chief of the Lesbian Global Tribe may disagree with me, but I think toys are great and...(read more)

Lesbian prison dating! Did you know this was happening?
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Cliches are ideas that have gone around for so long that you start thinking they are true. When it comes to lesbian...(read more)

You’re finally married to your lesbian sweetheart, but your father-in-law isn’t exactly warm and cuddly about the...(read more)

If you’ve been out and about with lesbians for any length of time, you’ve heard about the lesbian friend zone.
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Butch versus femme isn’t real because butches and femmes don’t see themselves as competing against each other.
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Can two lesbians be in love and not compatible? Love is one thing and compatibility is another, so the quick and dirty...(read more)

Lipstick lesbians, or shall we say feminine-looking lesbians, have a hard time getting dates with lesbians. Most...(read more)

Probably every single lesbian has experienced this at least once in her life. Either you couldn’t move on or you are...(read more)

The gold mine of lesbian sex is oral sex. It’s luscious, tasty and a totally mind-altering experience when it’s...(read more)

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One of the questions I get asked most often from lesbians is how to go slow. Going slow means waiting to jump into bed,...(read more)

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Women around the world wake up every day and realize their marriage isn’t working and it’s because they are...(read more)

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Wow, right? It’s an amazing feeling when you fall in love as a lesbian for the first time.
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The first language you learn as a human being is body language. You learn to read your mother’s facial expressions and...(read more)

First dates can be really nerve-racking, especially if you already have an inkling that you may like this fabulous new...(read more)

Chemistry is important. You want to feel attraction for the lesbian you’re dating.
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Being a lesbian doesn’t mean you should accept less than the best in a relationship. That’s not the world we live in...(read more)

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Most of us have heard this phrase at some point in our lives, and it will rock your world in the worst way.
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There’s a lot of advice out there for hetero dating and much more now on gay dating, but the bisexual world doesn’t...(read more)

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Did your lesbian relationship come to a crashing end during the holidays? It happened for lots of lesbians.
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You know the ones, the Lone Ranger lesbian. You rarely see her around and she doesn’t really show up for anything that...(read more)

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It happened. She broke up with you.
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It’s right here and right now - we are deep into the holiday season. Hanukkah has finished and now we move on to the...(read more)

My rule of thumb here is to only spend what you’re comfortable losing. What do I mean by this?
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The holidays are wonderful and tough. There’s the magical part of the holidays: music, romance, gifts, time with...(read more)

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Being shy is painful. It keeps you trapped and unable to live life and enjoy the endless possibilities that come from...(read more)

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It’s a privilege to be invited into the process of helping a woman recreate her life through dating coaching.
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Relationships end - it happens a lot. Sometimes seemingly before they get started, they are over.
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First dates can be amazing, awful or somewhere in between.
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So your girlfriend wants an open relationship and you're not sure if you can do it. Do you want help with this...(read more)

Lesbian sexual preferences can be a difficult conversation to have.
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Are you crazy in love with your new girlfriend, but she won't stop talking about her ex?
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Lesbians ask me all the time how to know if a date went well.
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You took the dive. You put up a profile on an online dating site. Now what do you do?
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BTN? What’s that? “Better Than Nothing!”
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How do you kiss a lesbian and turn her on? Just the thought takes me back to the first time I kissed a woman.
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There is no question that you expect a lot from your partner in a relationship nowadays.
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We all play head games. Some of us just play head games with women we date, but all of us play head games with...(read more)

"How do I know if the woman I'm interested in is lesbian?" This is a question I hear often from lesbians who are new or...(read more)

Does online dating work for lesbians? Of course it does.
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You’ve been out a few times now with a charming lesbian.
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Lesbian sex for the first time! I know, you can hardly stand waiting another day!
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As more and more lesbians live openly, more studies are being done to determine what, if any, affect being raised by a...(read more)

First, I just have to ask: Why do you want her back?
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You’ve met her — the woman of your dreams! She might be butch, femme, lipstick, sporty or boi, but she’s hot and...(read more)

Wow, that’s a big question isn’t it? It's sort of loaded with nervous tension and excitement.
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She’s not only attractive, but she’s sort of feminine. You really liked that about her.
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Loneliness — is it an attitude or a place? I know you see it as a feeling.
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If you’re over fourteen, you’ve probably got an ex-girlfriend. Any lesbian worth her salt has a few exes lying...(read more)

If you've done any dating at all as a lesbian, you've probably done the mini marriage.
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Does being out affect your ability to get dates? It sure does. And it affects your ability to keep a date coming back.
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Guess what, if we just started dating, I probably don’t want to hear about your lesbian dating past on our first...(read more)

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Introducing yourself to that hot lesbian you spied out doesn’t have to be hard or scary. Let me share three steps for...(read more)

No, I’m not kidding. I know you are saying to yourself, "Online dating is tough." Well, that’s why you need to...(read more)

You’re a single lesbian and you want a relationship. You want a date with a single lesbian and you’re wondering...(read more)

Is that hot lesbian lady interested in you, gay girl? Well, here are three ways to know if you should make an approach.
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You might be surprised to learn Valentine’s Day originates from the actions of a pioneering and brave man who decided...(read more)

Dogs are their own version of love machines. They are loyal and true. They never lie or cheat.
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Celesbians isn’t a term you’ll find in the dictionary...yet. And if you’re lesbian, you know who the celebrities...(read more)

What’s a marriage-minded lesbian to do when she wants to get married but lives in a state that still hates LGBT people...(read more)

Coming out stories are part of our culture as lesbians. We all have one. Your story may be pretty short or pretty long....(read more)

It might have surprised you. You were out with friends and she walked into the room. She might not have even noticed...(read more)

It’s the new year again. You’re still single. You’re discouraged. You’re done with online dating. You don’t go...(read more)

This is it. Finally you’re hitting the road with that gorgeous lesbian you’ve been dating. Or maybe you’ve finally...(read more)

It’s so exciting to be dating someone special when the holidays arrive. It’s all so much fun, but I’m going to...(read more)

Don’t you agree? Some of you are already on this bandwagon and you’ve been riding it for years. But many women are...(read more)

Gay women are everywhere but we’ve yet to start adorning ourselves with a scarlet “L” on our foreheads. We’re...(read more)

Are you listening to this? Two dates doesn’t mean we’re a couple! That’s way too soon, even if the sex is great....(read more)

If you’ve spent any time browsing the net for advice about lesbian relationships, you’ve probably run into plenty of...(read more)

The first and most important rule to dating in our little lesbian world is know thyself above all else. It seems...(read more)