10 Things Single Lesbians NEED to Know About Online Dating

Lesbian Dating

10 Things Single Lesbians NEED to Know About Online Dating

Mary Gorham Malia Mary Gorham Malia • 9/25/14

There are 1,000,000 lesbians using online dating sites in the U.S. every day. Yes, that’s right – 1,000,000.

Now these 1,000,000 lesbians are spread all over the country and aren’t all available for you to date, but if you skip online dating as one strategy to meet single lesbians, you’re making a big mistake.

Online dating is just one thing you should be doing in your search to find an amazing lesbian love and relationship, but it’s an important one to be using along with local events, festivals, meetups, local LGBT nonprofits and more.

There are 10 things you need to understand about online dating to make it more fun and a more successful experience.

1. Learn how to use all of the features

You must understand how to use the online dating site of your choice and all its features. Before you start paying, try out the free features and get familiar with the process the site uses.

2. Each dating site is unique and some are better than others

If you’re not happy with the quality of the site (we’ll talk about the lesbians on the site in a minute!), then get off the site. It should run well, not stall out and have a good number of women who are active on the site in your area.

3. Don’t be upset when lesbians don’t get back to you 


Not getting a response to an email you send is pretty darn common. Most emails don’t get any response, so it’s not really that personal. It’s happening to everyone.

4. Yes, women lie – get over it

They post old pictures that aren’t a real reflection of how they look today. They say they don’t smoke when they do and more.

Stop taking it personally and just move on when you realize you’ve met a liar. Hopefully you figure it out sooner than later.

5. You have to give the process time

It is possible you’ll meet the love of your life in one week of online looking, but it’s not likely. You may need to make a long-term commitment. That’s OK.  Many women quit way too soon.

The older you are, the longer you need to give yourself to find a great match, and that’s OK because as we get older, we stop compromising.

6. Have great pictures, please

You don’t need a ton of them, but make sure they aren’t more than six months old.

Everyone has a smartphone these days, so getting digital pictures is easy and convenient. If you need to take 100 pictures to get your best, do it!

7. Don’t complain


Please don’t be a whiny bitch in your dating profile. Don’t complain about what’s wrong with life or online dating. No one is interested in your “I’m mad as hell” story because none of us want to date someone who is bitter and resentful.

8. Take dating offline ASAP

If you’re not looking for a pen pal, then stop acting like you are. When you connect with a lesbian online, take dating offline as soon as possible.

You’re doing online dating to get to a relationship. Three emails, a phone and meet is the recipe for not wasting time and discovering if you have a good connection when you meet.

9. Don’t be surprised when your date is still online dating

Until you and the woman you are seeing agree to be exclusive, stop getting upset if you see her online. That’s her business (not yours) until you both agree you’re officially dating exclusively.

10. When you’re exclusive, it’s time to pull your profile down

Now it’s time to jump up and down. The online dating site has done its job. You’ve met a woman who is great for you and you both agree it’s time to pull your profiles. Woo hoo!!

The path to success in online dating is patience, a relaxed attitude and being willing to engage in the process for the long term if needed.

With a more easygoing approach, you’ll discover it’s a great way to date and meet women along with all of the other dating venues you have access to in your city or town.

And if online dating is the only active venue you’ve got, then stop delaying and holding back. Work it, baby!!

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