Once you enter your midlife years, you often go through some longer patches of singledom than you did in your 20s.
With Valentine’s Day looming its head, if you’re a senior single, you might feel like you just want to pull the covers over your head.
But don’t! You really do have a number of options. It just takes a little advance planning.
1. Manage your mindset
Don’t go to a Valentine’s Day social with the college mindset of looking to meet “the one.” That puts much too much pressure on the occasion.
Instead, spiff up to look your best and equip yourself with the expectation to make some new friends and have a fun evening. Senior couples often form more slowly with extended social interaction. Women are happy to dance with you when they feel you’re interested, but there’s no rush.
2. Manage your wallet
Secondarily, you can always spend a small fortune on Valentine’s Day activities, but that would defeat the whole point of creating a rich, full second half of life.
The point is to have an abundance of resources and enjoy them, not to be a spendthrift and burn through everything before you hit 64.
Start by looking at your city’s park and recreation list of activities. You might be delighted to discover they’re sponsoring a community Valentine’s Day dance.
“The more casual this is, the better because that
affords you greater opportunity to meet more people.”
You will find prices are very affordable. To select which one you want to attend, phone the sponsor and vet about how good this event is for solo dancers. On years when Valentine’s Day falls on a Sunday, these dances might be a Sunday afternoon dance, not going until the wee hours of the night.
If you took up square dancing in January, or maybe you took a class in September, you will find that a number of the dance clubs sponsor a special Valentine’s Day dance.
Square dancing used to be a “couples only” activity, but that is so last century! For years now, clubs welcome solo dancers and even post a single dancers board to pair up dancers.
With door entry often $10 or under, you’ll be managing your entertainment dollars well with this choice.
3. Manage your choices
Contact local churches and faith communities to ask about the singles activities they sponsor. You might need to drive to attend the Valentine’s Day dance, but it would be worth your time and effort to do so because the majority of attendees will also be single.
The dances put on by faith communities often feature some kind of pre-dance dinner. The more casual this is, the better because that affords you greater opportunity to mingle, chat and just meet more people.
Come prepared with a social activity you could invite new acquaintances to shortly after the dance. Is there a place that has Taco Tuesdays nearby that you could invite people to and create more shared experiences with? Or perhaps you could invite someone to your favorite late afternoon tea or early morning coffee place?
Just come with one or two things to casually invite new people to so you create more of an extended social circle. This is how more senior couples are created, and the social network will enrich your couple’s life once you two are together.
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