You’ve been around long enough now to understand the absolute power of the feminine mystique. Men love everything about women and will do anything to get close to them. You could probably get a man just by snapping your fingers and waving him over, but it’s probably best to start with the time-honored way of getting his attention: flirting.
Flirting can be visual, verbal, physical, subliminal or even aromatic. All’s fair in love, so if you appeal to a man’s weaknesses, needs, senses and desires, you should have no problem in attracting and commanding his attention.
1. Dress for success.
Men are still men. Their first instinct arises from their lustful desire to experience a woman’s charms. That’s not bad. It’s just nature.
If you want him to see you as a woman instead of as a generic, genderless human, wear a dress or something nice. If you look like you’re going to a dog fight, you’re going to attract dogs.
There’s no need to get your hair done to go to the grocery store, but always look feminine when you go out. You never know when you will encounter the man who could be your new partner. As long as your hair is neat and you are dressed nicely, that’s all that matters.
Ditch the scarf, the sweatshirt or cardigan sweater and the rolled-down hose. A hat is fine in the winter but show off your face, eyes and smile. Accentuate the best parts of your figure, and show a little skin below the knee. You’ve still got it, so use it.
2. Be a girl.
Women have always been at the top of the food chain, but the ones most successful in love have always managed to lead their men from behind. The softness and seeming vulnerability are a big part of what attracts a man.
The big eyes, the need for his strength, a smile straight from heaven and the scent of a country meadow on an April morning will make all men very aware that they are in the presence of a lady.
Make eye contact with the one you like, smile and strike up a conversation or ask for his help.
“Flirting is still the best way
to create an instant bond.”
3. Talk, touch and laugh.
When you get in a one-on-one situation with a man, that is your chance to close the deal. Keep up the eye contact and the smile, of course, but also crank the charm up a notch.
That doesn’t mean you should be phony. Your charm is the part of you that makes you the woman you are.
Engage him with your wit and wisdom, ask him insightful questions and bring out his personality, too. You are both very comfortable with yourselves now, so you will naturally be more comfortable with each other, too.
The sexual overtones will not overwhelm the situation because you have the maturity and confidence to interact with each other in a very human and casual way.
Pat his arm or touch his hand in the course of your conversation. You can even find an excuse to take his hand in yours, whether it’s to massage his knuckle joints or to examine his ring.
The touching is not for you. It’s for him. He will be thrilled by your touch and want more.
Make sure you share a laugh, as that is a good way to bond and put him at ease, and you can always suggest you meet for coffee some morning soon to continue the conversation.
Flirting is still the best way to create an instant and friendly bond with a man in a manner that can carry a twinge of romance without any real commitment to scare him or put him off.
Since it’s all on an overtly friendly level, there should be no real fear of rejection for either of you. It’s a first step you can retreat from quickly and easily if you don’t like the feel of it, but it can also be the beginning of something beautiful.