5 Dating Mistakes Senior Women Need to Avoid

September 10, 2012
5 Dating Mistakes Senior Women Need to Avoid

The dating world is filled with pitfalls to sidestep, and these potential problems hardly disappear when you become an older woman. Instead, the dating problems you will encounter as an older woman are simply different than the problems you remember encountering as a younger woman.

These problems include:

1. Thinking you’re too old to date.

Let’s make one thing clear right off the bat — you are never too old to date. You don’t need to perform a lot of research to notice compatible men, and women continue to find each other at every stage of their lives.

Plenty of women have boyfriends in their later years, and there’s no lack of senior men and women getting married to each other.

You are never too old to date. Remember this.

2. Thinking dating isn’t worth it.

This fear is just as understandable (but just as unfounded) as the previous concern. As long as your heart works, as long as you feel and as long as you desire companionship, dating will always be worthwhile.

Are you going to find a man, marry him and have a new batch of children together at your age? Probably not. But getting married and raising a new family represents just one reason why people decide to come together.

Let go of your expectations of what sort of relationship you think you’re “supposed” to have and explore the sort of relationships you really desire right now.

 

“The human desire for kindness, excitement

and warmth does NOT have an expiration date.”

3. Settling for less than you want.

Just because you’re older doesn’t mean you need to settle for a relationship you don’t want with a man you don’t want to be with. Just because the dating pool isn’t quite as deep as it was when you were younger, that doesn’t mean you need to lower your standards.

Dating is supposed to be a fun experience revolving around sharing exciting adventures, warm moments and lots of personal growth, all of which are only possible when you’re with a partner who excites you, comforts you and helps you reach the next step of your personal evolution.

Never forget this, and never settle with someone simply because you don’t think you could meet anyone else due to your age.

4. Listening to what everyone else says.

Some of your friends and family will treat your dating life patronizingly. Some of your friends and family won’t approve of your choice to continue to date. Some of your friends and family will disagree with the partner you choose.

But then again, some of your friends and family will love the fact that you continue to date, they will take your romantic experiences seriously, and they will heartily approve of the high-quality partners you bring into your life.

Keep your supportive loved ones in the loop, and breeze over the matter with anyone who does less than give you all the green lights you need. Life’s too short, for all of us, to waste our time with anyone who offers less than full support.

5. Thinking senior dating is different.

People are people, dating is dating and relationships are relationships. The surface details change from person to person and demographic to demographic, but ultimately you’re looking for positive experiences and loving partners very similar to those you desired when you were younger.

The human desire for kindness, excitement and warmth does NOT have an expiration date.

Sam has been writing about dating and relationships for more than three years now. He holds a bachelor's degree from Bucknell University, has self-published a few of his own books and is currently working on mastering the double right turn in his salsa dancing classes. Connect with him on Google+.

Related Topics:
Deal-Breakers Featured Seniors

4 Responses

    I hide my dating relationships from my family. My 34 year old son doesn’t approve

      C. Price
      Cynthia (DatingAdvice.com)

      Gladys it’s nice of you to consider your family and they’re feelings on the matter. Once you feel comfortable enough to share your dating life with the ones you love, then you can take the time to sit them down. Until then, keep soul searching!

    I have been widowed twice. I would like to date again, but
    hope I am ready. I still grieve a little, but my desire for a partner
    is growing stronger. Is 7 months too soon. I am a young 60. I don’t want to wait too long. Life is precious and short.
    What are your thoughts? What precautions should I consider?

Add a Comment

We're glad you have chosen to leave a comment. Please keep in mind that all comments are moderated according to our comment policy, and all links are nofollow. Do NOT use keywords in the name field. Let's have a personal and meaningful conversation.