How Long Should Seniors Date Before Getting Married?

Senior Dating

How Long Should Seniors Date Before Getting Married?

April Braswell April Braswell • 10/09/15

Are things getting serious between you and your senior mate?

Once you start to get the feeling that your boomer date might just be the one for you, it’s time to consider how long you two need to wait before saying, “I do!”

Most senior singles have been married at least once before. Also, as a demographic, many boomers have invested in themselves and their personal growth over the years.

They possess a much better idea of what they want and what they don’t want in a relationship.

You might think you and your partner could rush down the aisle faster than your 20-something counterparts who don’t know themselves as well as you do, but not so fast!

Are you recently single?

If you are recently widowed or divorced, you’re heart might be breaking as you ache to be in another relationship.

However, you really do want to wait at least a year to give yourself the space to grieve, heal your heart and get yourself emotionally ready to be with a new mature mate.

“Building a midlife romance is

like planting a rose garden.”

What do you do when you’ve found a new love?

Once you are dating your single senior and start to have the inkling that this person just might be the new great love of your life, it’s not time to jet down to the courthouse. It’s only time to commit to exclusivity!

Too many seniors are so strongly desiring to be paired up again that they rush to get engaged too fast. Becoming engaged within just a month or two and spending large amounts of money on purchasing major furniture together is moving way too fast.

Sure, it’s a cute romantic notion on “Last Tango in Halifax” to be swept off your feet so rapidly, but be careful. That emotional need is precisely the one that leaves seniors vulnerable to getting scammed.

You’re not 37 years old. You don’t have a biological clock ticking to contend with in order to have children.

When you’re over 50, what’s your hurry?

If your date really is your new life mate, you have the rest of your lives to spend together. Give yourselves some time to build the foundation for your lifetime of love together.

Twelve months together is the minimum time to invest in your relationship to see what each other is like and start negotiating and communicating at a life partner level.

Then once you’re betrothed, devote at least a few more months to learning to work through things together.

Once you two cohabit, make changes slowly so you both can adjust.

Building a midlife romance is more like planting a rose garden than a weekend project. Give yourselves plenty of time to prepare, plant and cultivate your love. Savor it.

You’ll have years together to enjoy what you nurture now.

How long do want to wait before marrying again?

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