How Midlife Singles Can Date Again After a Death

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How Midlife Singles Can Date Again After a Death

April Braswell April Braswell • 9/25/14

When you are single again after the death of your beloved spouse, getting back out into the world of modern dating can feel like a roller coaster.

Trust me, I’ve been there. I was widowed at 37.

Most widowed singles are one of the millions of midlife singles in the contemporary dating scene. I used the term “widowed” to include both widows and widowers.

First of all, give yourself a break.

Aim to venture back out into the modern dating game ever so slowly. Aim to get back into the swing of things slowly.

Don’t jump back into the deep end of the dating pool before you have updated your image and first started to stretch yourself socially.

Jumping back in too quickly can be upsetting in a whole new way.


“You’ll both feel more comfortable and

confident in yourself for dating again.”

Has it been years since a romantic first date?

In which case, don’t start out by racing into a Saturday night date to first meet.

Instead, aim to start out slowly simply by flirting with members of the opposite sex.

Yes, do update your image, your hairstyle, your wardrobe, and for the ladies, your makeup style.

Make sure your wardrobe and image show you as a single who is interested in considering a romantic relationship.

Toss off your widowed weeds. Don’t be seen all about town always decked out in black and gray ensembles.

Instead, add some modern and season accents of color to be eye catching.

Follow the example of the birds in their dance for the mating season.

Start to incorporate eye-catching colors into your wardrobe, which express to potential dates you are interested and available for a romantic love relationship.

Get involved socially before dating.

Start to attend dance classes and community social events to launch yourself back out in the social scene before a big date night.

By following these suggestions, you’ll feel more comfortable and confident in yourself for dating again now. You’ll also be more attractive to the opposite sex.

Which tip was the most helpful and pertinent for where you are in your dating life?

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