Many singles 60 and over find dating to be daunting. However, with a bit of enthusiasm and effort, you can create exciting opportunities for yourself in the dating world. Here are 6 ways to expand your options:
1. Online Dating
Online dating is hands down the best way to find love at 60. More than 10 million people 55 and over are looking for love online, so your chances of finding a match are very good.
The 4 dating sites below are our experts’ top choices for single seniors who want a casual date or a serious commitment.
- Match.com, the #1 dating site in the world, has more senior members than any dating site and a unique matching system that does all the hard work for you.
- eHarmony.com, a great choice for seniors looking for a long-term relationship, has an in-depth personality test that makes the matching process extremely accurate.
- OurTime.com is an affordable dating site specifically geared toward singles 50 and older, and it has a clean interface that makes it easy to sign up, create a profile, and start searching for like-minded people right away.
- ChristianMingle.com, which sees more than 2.4 million visits a month, is exclusively for Christian senior singles, so you’re sure to meet someone with similar values and beliefs.
These sites all have large senior user bases, simple layouts, helpful features, advice articles, and more, making it quick and easy to connect with someone special. They all also offer free trials or accounts, so you can test each one out to find your favorite.
Many romances have started because former high school or college classmates reunited on Facebook. You can also stay up to date on the relationship statuses of those on your friends list. Your friends and family may even introduce you to someone new from their circle of friends.
While social media is not a substitute for spending time with someone in real life, it can be a safe way to start a conversation. Plus, you’re likely to get invited to some offline events via your connections. Better yet, you could host an event yourself and invite as many people as possible.
3. Meet-Up Groups
Meet-up groups are good for introducing yourself to new people and learning new skills. Search Meetup.com for events in your area, like book clubs, art gallery hops, and speed dating, and attend a few. It can often feel less risky to meet others in a group setting. If you don’t connect with anyone or don’t enjoy the vibe of the group, feel free to try another one or move on to one of the other options on this list.
4. Social Events
Look beyond the obvious. Have you considered that there’s probably a lot more going on in your city than you realize? A simple Google search, like “community events (your city)” or “things to do in (your city)”, can provide you with information on a variety of local festivals, seminars, concerts, and more that you might enjoy.
Be willing to try something new, and don’t be afraid to go alone to public gatherings. A client of mine went by herself to a local Greek festival and met a man while standing in line to get lunch. They talked and laughed while waiting for their food, sat down, ate together, and then decided to go on a date.
Give a little love and get some back in return. This can be a prime time in your life to get involved in a cause you deeply believe in. You’ll have an opportunity to meet people who share a common interest. Another client of mine went to a fundraiser for Ethiopian women and met several fascinating people who invited her to other social engagements.
6. The Gym or a Health Club
Get moving! If you’re physically active and seeking someone like you, the health club or gym can be a potential hot-spot. Many facilities even offer classes specifically for seniors. You can simply smile, make eye contact, or ask an attractive stranger a question about the class. Why not flirt a little while staying fit?
As you come across new experiences and people, you’re building up your social life. In turn, you’ll be seen as vibrant and intriguing to members of the opposite sex, and they’ll want to spend time with you. Don’t get attached to the outcome of any one particular interaction, and approach things with lightness and a sense of humor.
Stay open to new things and go beyond your comfort zone. It might feel a little scary at first, but the rewards will be worth it. You’ll soon see that dating, love, and romance is just as much fun at 60 as it was at 20.
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