Tinder — the popular dating app for the young, hot, and smartphone addicted — has made over 9 billion matches since it launched in 2012. But is Tinder gay friendly (or lesbian, bisexual, trans, and queer friendly, for that matter)? We took a look at Tinder through rainbow-colored glasses, and this is what we found out.
Tinder Is Gay Friendly Only in the Strictest Terms
It’s no secret that the app’s gay friendliness has regularly been called into question by users, but even Tinder CEO Sean Rad has admitted, “The product works for the gay community, but we need to do a better job of sort of calling it out.”
By “works for the gay community,” perhaps Rad means it is technically possible to find the same-sex love of your life through this latest iteration of the hot-or-not game. The app does allow users to identify as male or female and then indicate interest in male, female, or male and female. So in the strictest sense, sure, Tinder is gay, lesbian, and bisexual friendly (assuming you’re cisgender — more on that below).
But a plethora of anecdotal evidence suggests that — whether owing to app glitches, user error (or intentional creepiness), or the relatively small LGBTQIA+ userbase — Tinder will show you people outside of your selected preference with aggravating frequency.
Spoiler alert: I skipped Tinder altogether and met my wife on Match.com, but if you really want to get the low-down, read on.
Tinder is Notoriously Awful for Lesbians Who Don’t Want to Be Shown Pics of Dudes
What Tinder does have going for it, lady love-wise, is that because it pulls profile information from Facebook (without advertising your every dating move), you can see friends you have in common — often a big comfort factor for women whether straight, lesbian, or bi.
But for lesbians who aren’t super excited about random men popping up on their screens, Tinder is almost guaranteed to annoy. And while some ladies enjoy a challenge, most lesbians looking for love don’t appreciate Tinder suggesting straight women to them, either.
Gay men also run into this issue of ill-fitting matches — though maybe less often, perhaps owing to the growing number of “not gay” men looking for gay sex.
Tinder Fails for Trans, Queer, and Non-Binary Users
But what about trans, queer, and non-binary people? Tinder almost literally gives no f*cks.
Because the only options for gender identification are male and female, a whole swath of the LGBTQIA+ community is summarily discounted. And because the only options for a user’s interests are male, female, and male or female, anyone in search of a trans, genderqueer, agender, or other non-binary partner have to play a painstaking guessing game.
To be sure, Tinder creates more than an inconvenience for TQIA+ users — it can create demeaning and even dangerous interactions. Because of the app’s paucity of gender identity settings, trans users, for example, are forced to decide whether and when to disclose their trans identity — a potentially scary situation that could be avoided if Tinder allowed for people to select who they actually are (and who they do and don’t want to see) in the first place.
Final Analysis: For Same-Sex Love, Look Elsewhere
So, is Tinder gay friendly? We give it a resoundingly lukewarm maybe. But LGBTQIA+ romantics probably have a better chance of finding love elsewhere. Match.com, OurTime.com, Zoosk, BlackPeopleMeet, and BeNaughty top our lists for the best lesbian dating sites and best gay dating sites.
And if it’s not exactly love you’re looking for, there’s always Craigslist.