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|David O'Brien • 9/25/14|
With the old favorite dinner for two no longer our best bet for first date success, it’s time for you mature gents and ladies to act your age.
It’s time for you single seniors to put your life experience to work and also embrace the most basic of modern dating technology.
Unless your objective is 50 first dates, those of us looking to ride off into the sunset with our geriatric Cinderella or Prince Charming need a new dating game plan.
If your last first date was one of your fondest memories of the ’70s or ’80s, be forewarned that dating over 50 is not simply a matter of turning back the clock.
This senior dating thing is not like the proverbial riding a bicycle. Times have changed and so must you – just a little.
So with the clock no longer our friend, how do we avoid a lot of failed first dates and skip right to the part where we have a good chance to find our last true love?
There is no such sure thing, but we can definitely date smarter and put quality ahead of quantity.
In part one, we reinvented the first date, which still involves dialogue and a phase of getting to know one another, just like the customary dinner date, but doesn’t involve food in any way.
Instead, the first date is now all about wowing him or her into continuing the courting process because you have already decided he or she was worthy of dating.
The next step before meeting in person? Is he or she worthy of being your mate? Here’s where your new age preparation and creativity become part of the process.
To save lots of time and failed first dates, you need to join the computer age. I see you cringing, but it is easier than you dread.
Without this new tool, you are at a serious disadvantage compared to newly retired boomers who bring the basics of the cyber age with them.
For all you types who aren’t tech savvy, here are the simple steps involved:
1. Buy a cheap computer
Get a basic laptop for portability, even if it is a refurbished model.
2. You’ve got mail
If not you, have someone you know set up a free Google Gmail account or Outlook Hotmail email and learn how easy it is to send and receive email. Email will become your senior dating safety net.
3. Start surfing
Learn how to use Google, Yahoo or Bing to surf the Internet. You are about to join the ranks (age 50+) of the fastest growing users of online dating sites. I see you cringing again, but with some precautions, it is easy and it works.
4. Set your sites
Do an Internet search for “over 50 dating sites” and make a list of at least three that peak your interest.
“At the very least, the dinner
out can wait a date or two.”
5. Get familiar
Navigate through these sites and become familiar with them, how they function and adhere to their safety dating advice.
6. Join for free
Become a free member of these sites and before you spend a penny on user fees, check out how busy the over 50 dating section is in your community. Do not post a picture or contact information other than your city or town and the basic profile info options.
7. Make a minimum investment
Purchase a basic membership so you can connect with singles in the cyber world whose profile and stated interests appeal to you.
Quality sites have an internal email system you can use anonymously until it’s time to use your own email to take the relationship to the next step.
When you have done some connecting with others (who says it only has to be one at a time?) and you feel you might like to meet someone in person, you can move to the next step of cyber dating.
But remember these precautions:
Now that you are off-site and communicating in a more personal and intimate environment, you have the means to discover if this person is truly date worthy.
What personal questions did you not ask on the dating site, such as family and personal interests or future plans to establish if you are compatible?
Ask questions that reveal character and values, such as, “What would your friends list as your best qualities?” or “Other than family, who did you most admire growing up and why?”
Find out what he or she is looking for in a relationship and partner. Are you compatible with him or her?
Finally, ask all the questions you need to establish that you want to meet in person or not go any further. It’s much easier this way to move on to the next dating candidate compared to a face-to-face rejection.
You now have the information you need, based on mutual interests, to set up a fun first date the two of you will enjoy. At the very least, the dinner out can wait a date or two.
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