Gay Dating

How to Meet Gay Guys Online

Mason Glenn • 1/19/16 •
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These days, it’s easier than ever to meet guys online. With the evolution of the Internet, we now have tons of options for finding our ideal man, including popular dating sites as well as some not-so-obvious ways.

Whether you’re looking for a hookup, date, or relationship, here are our top 4 choices for meeting guys online:

1. Online Dating Sites & Apps

Online dating has become the norm for meeting people. Everybody knows at least one person who’s tried online dating, and that’s because it honestly is the best option. Not only does online dating put you in front of millions of singles, but it’s also easy, affordable, and can be personalized to your wants and needs.

Below are our top picks for the best dating sites and apps for meeting gay men. We’ve also broken them up by those that are good for relationships and those that are good for hookups, so you can easily find exactly what you’re looking for.

Best Dating Sites & Apps for Relationships

If you’re looking for a relationship, you’ll have a lot of success with these 4 sites. Our experts have tested and reviewed each one, and they all have vast and diverse user bases, free trials or accounts, helpful features, accurate matching systems, and intuitive apps for easy searching.

Match.com

Match.com is welcoming to all singles and has more users (1.7 million paid members alone) than any other dating site, meaning it has a high percentage of gay daters as well. You’ve probably heard that Match is the dating site that’s responsible for the most dates, relationships, and marriages, and it really is true. When it comes to putting your love life in someone else’s hands, Match is #1 in our book.

OurTime

OurTime.com is a fantastic choice for gay seniors who want a simple way to find that special someone. The site sees more than 1.4 million visits a month, is easy to use, only takes a few minutes to join, and lets you search for matches on your own or the algorithm will do it for you. All of these components make it a leading senior dating site for gay singles.

Zoosk

For tech-savvy gay singles who know their way around a computer, laptop, iPad, or any other device, Zoosk.com is the way to go. Their integration with social media sites like Facebook make online dating at home, during your commute to work, at the gym, or anywhere else feel effortless, and their one-of-a-kind Behavioral MatchmakingTM algorithm pairs you with like-minded people.

BlackPeopleMeet

BlackPeopleMeet.com is a go-to dating site for black and interracial daters of all sexual orientations. With a free trial offer and more than 1.4 million visits a month, you can create a profile and start browsing gay singles on BlackPeopleMeet right away. From “Today’s Matches” to icebreakers to live chat, BlackPeopleMeet has numerous features to make finding a match fun and quick.

Best Dating Sites & Apps for Hookups

If relationships aren’t really your style (no shame in that!), these are our experts’ top choices for the best dating sites and apps for hookups.

Grindr

Grindr spearheaded the dating app craze in 2009. It’s available in 192 countries, has become one the largest gay dating apps in the world, and gained popularity because it’s addictive and has that instant gratification we humans love.

Grindr has become the most popular gay hookup app in the world.

Grindr is a great platform for exploring your sexuality, figuring out what you’re attracted to, and hooking up to your heart’s desire — provided you are safe and have honest conversations with your matches about what you want.

It’s rare that those hookups become something more over time, but you never know when one of your matches could be someone worth dating in the long run (or maybe just your next workout buddy).

BeNaughty

BeNaughty.com is the most well-known hookup-only dating site. Not only is BeNaughty an active site (13.3 million visits a month), but you can search for other hookup-minded singles by gender, age, location, online status, and more, allowing you to narrow down what you want. BeNaughty is an affordable and fun dating site (with its naughty virtual gifts and erotic photo contests, to name a few things) that makes it OK to express your desires, so feel free to be yourself.

2. MeetUp.com

Meetup.com is a great way to get offline and try an activity that you may not do on your own. Most of the time you can even connect with the administrator of the group or another attendee via instant messages to start the conversation.

Even if the activity is fairly platonic, it’s important that you practice putting yourself out there. Meetup.com is amazing at creating more extroverts from introverts. And, remember, it’s always best to talk to someone with a common interest rather than create a random topic hoping to win the instant connection lottery.

3. GayCities.com

GayCities.com is a worldwide platform for LGBT events and recommendations on the best local restaurants, bars, and more and is a fusion of Yelp!, Eventbrite, and Facebook. With this platform, you can create a profile, scan profiles of other members attending the events, and even message them directly. It’s almost like a “see you there” kind of thing, and this is something you can do from the comfort of your own home until you find the outlet that feels most comfortable to you.

GayCities.com has lists of LGBT events, and you can create a profile and message the other attendees.

The event catalog ranges from drag queen bingo night or non-profit volunteering, to seminars on HIV or an invitation to one of the most well-known gay circuit parties. You get what you make of these events, and there’s a plethora of options that will tickle your fancy in some way.

4. Social Media

I recently had a conversation with a business contact of mine who said someone randomly Facebook messaged him, and years later that message turned into a budding romance and now a commitment in matrimony. Sometimes taking a chance can do you some justice.

If you come across a profile you like while casually browsing on Facebook or Instagram, you don’t have to do much sorting, do you? Birds of a feather do typically flock together, so you are bound to find someone with similar interests via most social media sites out there.

There are also many dating apps like Hinge that connect you with friends of friends from the Facebook interface and give you a ton of dating options.

Final Thoughts

In today’s digital-obsessed world, the easiest way to meet gay singles is to get online, and while sites like GayCities.com and Facebook are great options, online dating is the avenue that will put you in front of millions of quality guys. We’ve given you our top recommendations, so take advantage of the free trials or accounts and find the dating site that suits your style and needs the most. The main thing to remember is to always be open to any and all possibilities. Good luck!

About The Author

Mason has had a long career in the matchmaking industry and has spent his time helping high-caliber clientele in Los Angeles select eligible matches. He specializes in working with gay men. Mason has the ability to read people based on their personality traits, relationship history, and biological thinking process. His training, personal experience in the field, and intuition play a key role in his making of lasting love connections. Currently, Mason is an acclaimed published author. His newest book, "Getting Ahead of the Gayme: Man First, Gay Second," can be purchased through Amazon, iBooks, or Google Play.