Meeting “Senior” Singles for Free — (9 Tips for Online & In Your Area)

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Meeting “Senior” Singles for Free — (9 Tips for Online & In Your Area)

Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews • 12/04/17

It’s been said that 50 is the new 40, but with advances in the health and technology fields, we’d say 60 is the new 50, 70 is the new 60, 80 is the new 70, and beyond.

Age doesn’t hold people back like it might have before, especially in terms of dating. Single seniors have more options than ever for making new friends and romantic connections, and we’ve narrowed down those options to the top nine. Whether you’re looking online or nearby, you’ll have no trouble expanding your social circle and staying on budget with these tips.

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Where to Meet Seniors Online (#1-3)

Getting online is hands down the fastest and easiest way to find a date or partner, and you don’t have to be an IT whiz to make it work for you. We’ll walk you through what you need to know — from creating a dating profile to sending friend requests on social media.

1. Senior Dating Sites

Online dating was the new kid on the block in the 1990s, when getting set up on blind dates, meeting someone at work or through friends, or putting out a personal ad was the norm. Today, the roles have reversed.

You’ve got almost 8,000 dating sites to choose from, with a significant number of them being for mature men and women. Below are our top three picks, all of which offer free trials and/or memberships:

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4.9/5.0

Relationships: Casual Dates, Deep Relationships

Match System: Search by age, profile, zip, more

Our Experts Say: “Match.com has the largest base of "over 50" users of any dating site. Its easy-to-use matching system has led to more dates and relationships than any other site...” Full Review »

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You’ll find more senior singles on Match than you will on any other dating site — because it has the largest user base (30 million members and 13.5 million visitors a month) and is the most trusted and successful (more dates, relationships, and marriages than its competitors). Match’s entire process (filling out your information, searching for and receiving matches, communicating, etc) is super intuitive, particularly because the layout is clean and well-organized.

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4.5/5.0

Relationships: Casual Dates, Deep Relationships

Match System: Personality test suggests matches

Our Experts Say: “eHarmony's simple compatibility matching system makes the site a popular choice for seniors seeking deep, long-term relationships...” Full Review »

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If you want a dating site you can put on autopilot, eHarmony could be the one. After you sign up for an account and take an in-depth personality questionnaire, the site will find all of your matches and deliver the highly compatible suggestions to your inbox. Then you can view their profile, yay or nay them, and start messaging or move on to the next choice. This is just one of the main reasons older daters flock to this site.

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4.6/5.0

Relationships: Serious Relationships

Match System: Search personal criteria, plus get Partner Suggestions

Our Experts Say: “Elite Singles is exclusively for educated professionals, both active and retired. Its user base is mostly college-educated, and its advanced Fraud Detection System verifies every profile...” Full Review »

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Placing an emphasis on education, EliteSingles is one of the highest-quality dating websites around. About 80% of its users have earned a college degree (bachelor’s, master’s, and/or doctorate). Plus, only 10% are under 30, so you can rest assured that you’ll be in the company you want.

2. Meetup.com

Meetup.com is a great online resource for getting offline as soon as possible. Just search by an activity and/or your location. For example, we typed in the word senior, looked for meetups within 50 miles of New York City, and found hundreds of results — including “Travel and Dinner Group for Mature Adults” and “Senior Fitness for Life.” You could take matters into your own hands by starting your own meetup, too.

3. Facebook

A lot of single seniors have had luck on Facebook, including a close family friend of mine who began dating an old high school friend after they reconnected on the site. Pull out your yearbooks and start searching for your former classmates. You should probably have your high school listed on your profile so they can find you as well. You never know if talking about the good ol’ days could create a spark.

Where to Meet Seniors in Your Area (#4-9)

In addition to making use of the thousands of online resources that are out there, don’t neglect some of the more traditional ones. You want as many tools in your toolbelt as you can.

4. Ask Family Members & Friends to Set You Up

You’re just one person, and you can only do so much. That’s why we always tell singles, no matter their age, to recruit some help from their loved ones and colleagues. Tell them you’re single and looking, and have them put some feelers out.

Photo of seniors introducing each other

Whether it’s your sibling, co-worker, or tennis partner, let everyone you know that you don’t mind being set up. Photo source: Tennisworld.net.au

You would do the same if you were in need of a job, right? You should do the same for your personal life. It’s not desperate — it’s smart dating.

5. Join a Senior Community Center

More than likely, there are a ton of senior activities available where you live, and more than likely, they’re 100% free. You just have to know what to look for. Check out your chamber of commerce or city’s website or latest newsletter or call them up to see what they have going on. Newspapers also post about this kind of stuff all the time, and usually, your options range from arts and crafts to music and sports leagues.

6. If You Attend Church, Take a Look at the Other Members

One of our favorite tips for helping singles meet people is to tell them to do something they already do, like attend church, but look at it in a different way. Not only is your church a place for you to worship, but it’s also a venue for finding companionship.

Photo of a senior church choir

Sign up for choir or another activity at church and you’re guaranteed to get to know more people.

The next time you see someone you don’t know, ask a friend to introduce you or sit next to them on Sunday morning and strike up a conversation. You should also look into taking part in choir, a mission trip, or another activity that isn’t a Sunday service.

7. Try Volunteering for a Cause You Care About

If you’re philanthropically inclined, volunteering for a cause that’s near and dear to your heart is a good way to kill two birds with one stone, so to speak. You’ll be doing something positive for your community, and you’ll be interacting with new people.

Deliver dinners with Meals on Wheels, give dogs baths at your local animal shelter, read to children battling cancer — whatever it is, think about a cause that you’ll be passionate about and that will put you in front of those who have similar values. We love VolunteerMatch because it’s sort of like the dating site of volunteering.

8. Go to the Gym for Senior-Related Classes

The gym isn’t just for getting in shape and staying healthy — it’s also a magnet for finding a date. But don’t just get on the elliptical and put your headphones in. The classes are where you want to be. Most gyms have classes that are exclusively for mature men and women and that are free or include discounts. So it should be easy to break the ice because you already have that in common.

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A lot of gyms or YMCA’s offer seniors-only classes, so you can be around people who are like-aged and like-minded. Photo source: Care.com

Give things like water aerobics, yoga, or Zumba a chance. Pickleball is also a huge thing right now if you’re a fan of tennis-like sports.

9. Get a Part-Time Job That’s Popular Among Mature People

Retirement is wonderful because it’s relaxing and you can do whatever you want, but retirement can also make it harder to meet others. You’re less likely to plan happy hours with co-workers and make connections via customers, so you have to find another way to fill that void. A part-time job could be the way to go.

Bagging groceries at the grocery store and dedicating some time helping out at the library are popular choices among this age group. But Bankrate also has an awesome list of part-time jobs for retirees and seniors that you might not have thought of.

Broaden Your Horizons & Meet Single Seniors Simultaneously!

“Age is just a number” may be an overused saying, but it really is true. We get to dictate the age we feel. This mindset, as well as the tips above, will help senior singles have the dating life they want and deserve. Unlike some stereotypical movies suggest, bingo isn’t the only thing that’s out there (even though that’s a lot of fun, too).