Tips for Facing Senior Men Who Only Date Younger Women

February 21, 2013
Tips for Facing Senior Men Who Only Date Younger Women

As a woman, whatever your time of life, it’s important for you to feel vital and attractive in yourself first.

Still, while you’re a single midlife woman looking and feeling great in your 50s, it’s ego deflating and daunting to face the online singles scene when all you see are 50-something single men wanting to only date much younger women.

Senior single women will often come to my singles seminars saying it seems like all the senior single men only want to date women in their 30s and 40s.

You can feel demoralized if that’s all you’re reading on the senior singles sites in your area.

Take heart and know the mature men who are thinking they only want to date much younger women are usually the freshly divorced men, newly single again after just coming out of their former marriage.

Give them a little time, and they’ll come around. Much of what he currently thinks he wants is based on what he no longer wants from his ex-wife.

Rest assured, once he has gone on more than five dates with much younger women, he’ll most likely come around to desiring attractive mature women who are also in his age range.


“He thinks he wants the 28-year-old

until he is out on the dance floor with her.”

What do senior single men want in women now? 

What they really want is someone who is attractive, takes care of her looks and enjoys an active lifestyle.

He wants to share some of life’s activities with an alluring woman who can be a life companion and mate.

But the pace of a 28-year-old woman versus a 48-year-old woman really is different.

In a light fantasy, he thinks he wants the 28- or 38-year-old until he is out on the dance floor of life with her a few times.

Then reality kicks in and he adjusts his sights for an attractive woman who is his peer.

That’s when he’ll start noticing you!

Keep searching and getting out there, and you can find quality senior singles.

What are you seeing in the dating profiles of senior men where you are? Is it encouraging or discouraging for you?

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April Braswell is a senior dating expert, dating coach and professional dating profile writer. She leads dating, relationship and communication skills workshops throughout California. You can sign up for her ezine at and get a free gift ecourse when you do. Connect with April on Google+.

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5 Responses

    It’s true. Men are still attracted to the young at heart. No use in getting into a tired relationship just to watch it go an expected route.Once your kids are adults and you have the freedom to choose hobbies and explore, it’s nice to find someone else to isn’t going to just sit at home and watch tv or do routine chores.

    well here is one woman that is looking for a younger man..I would enjoy a nice looking man in his 50s but past that depresses me..I am a widow and am not looking to be a caregiver..I want to date and enjoy someone who is going to be around a bit…that sounds cruel and maybe crass.but it is true

      April Braswell
      April Braswell (

      Hi Bobbie,

      My condolences on your loss. Nothing wrong with wanting to date younger man. Be open to love and go out on dates. And then do open to the right man for you who might not be exactly in the form of the package you thought would work for you. Men in their 60s and 70s who take great care of themselves and live an active life, might be even better than a 51 year old who doesn’t.

      Where are you looking to meet more men for dating?

      Happy Dating and Relationships,


    I have had 2 relationships with men from a Christian site and one was a scammer who surprised me and asked for money, whom I did not give any to. I waited for a couple of mos. & found a senior on the same site who was so very nice & it lasted for 5mos & he dumped me with no explanation whatsoever! We had so much in common….his wife had died in 2013 & my son had died in 2013. He was so compassionate & kind. I found out he was a Liar & a Cheater! I am very upset over this and lost any trust I had in dating sites.

      April Braswell
      April Braswell (

      Hi Marilyn, oh how awful! I hope you reported the scammer to the dating site. The better paid sites are very responsive to such reports and ban those members so it doesn’t ruin it for the relationship motivated people. And Mr. #2, who knows what happened. After 5 months, both parties deserve to be treated with respect and consideration, meriting some kind of an explanation. You’re better off without him if his relationship skills are so lacking. Which sites did you try? The better ones are the premium paid sites. More of the singles who invest in the membership packages are then actually relationship-motivated.

      Take a break from the sites and go join a Salsa class or a Square Dance club class. Switch things up to keep meeting new people.

      Happy Dating and Relationships,

      April Braswell

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