What to Do if You Don’t Want to Get Remarried

November 16, 2012
What to Do if You Don’t Want to Get Remarried

Women get married for a variety of reasons: religion, love, kids, money, stability, tax breaks — the list goes on and on. But for women over 50 who are widowed or divorced, getting remarried isn’t necessarily on the top of their bucket list.

What should a senior woman do if she doesn’t want to get remarried? Let’s look at three important questions and shine a little light on how a woman over 50 should deal with not wanting to get remarried.

1. How should she tell the man she’s dating?

The sooner the better. If you plan on never remarrying, then you need to be upfront with every man you date and tell them this very important piece of information and a bit about why you made the decision.

Just prepare yourself for the fact that your new beau may not stick around after receiving the news.

2. How can you still have a lasting relationship?

By loving each other. Just because a couple isn’t married doesn’t mean they don’t love each other as much as married couples.

If you’re a senior woman who has decided not to remarry and your guy sticks by you, give him constant reminders that not saying “I do” has nothing to do with “I love you.”

3. Is getting remarried even that important?

That’s up to you. Getting remarried and the importance of it is completely up to each individual.

Some men – whether it’s for religious or traditional reasons – will not be with a woman unless she marries him. Some men could care less about a walk down the aisle.

Just be true to yourself — marriage or not — and always keep an open line of communication with the guy in your life. And remember to tell him you love him at least once a day.

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Fla. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at karapound.com. Connect with her on Google+.

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5 Responses

    It’s true I have met a lot of men who seem schocked when a woman doesn’t want to get married. It’s a personal choice for everyone

      C. Price
      Cynthia Price (DatingAdvice.com)

      That’s right, women (and men) make a personal choice whether it’s because of a bad experience or a cautious move not to make a mistake.

    I think being upfront about it is important but not like u should tell them on the first date…..no one cares about that on the first date no matter what your age

      I don’t agree with not telling your true feelings on the first date. Many women and men will match with their own selection. So if you are marriage minded and the guy is not in the relationship but for only LTR many women feel deceived if they are thinking there is that possibility while dating. Some men feel the same way, they feel they are being lead on because they are picking up the tab and hearing wedding bells when the woman is thinking LTR. Always be open and up front about it. If your not sure is the 3rd possibility. In this case in our age bracket both should be realistic enough to bring it up after X amount of dates.

        C. Price
        Cynthia Price (DatingAdvice.com)

        Well said, liz! As long as you’re honest about your intentions, your partner won’t feel led on. The tricky part is finding the right time to talk about whether you’re interested in a long term relationship (LTR) or not. That, my friend, is up to you :)

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