Who Pays on a Baby Boomer Date?

March 7, 2013
Who Pays on a Baby Boomer Date?

When it comes to senior dating, both men and women are wondering what is the modern singles expectation at the end of a first date?

Part of it depends on which age cluster you are in.

  • 45 years+
  • Over 50 mate seekers
  • 55–early sexagenarian singles

Most men born in the 1950s, 1960s and 1970s are still inclined to be chivalrous. They were raised on the behavior that a man pays for dates.

Total cost of dating.

For goodness sake, ladies, if the man you are out a date with reaches for his wallet and wants to pay for your date, let him.

However, always bring some money with you so you’re not caught shorthanded.

When you two are only looking at the cost of the date and pondering who should pay for the date, you are not looking at the total cost of dating (TCOD).

 

“Men who demonstrate providing

abilities create that initial attraction.”

Initial attraction depends on gender.

Gentlemen, the ladies you are dating are aiming to appeal to what creates initial attraction for men — visual chemical attraction. That means women are aiming to look their best to get your attention.

A woman who wants to look her best will likely get her hair done, do her makeup just so, invest in a manicure and pedicure and possibly even purchase a new first date ensemble.

Women’s TCOD is often in the appearance side of things.

However, cultivating attraction in women is different than initial attraction for men, where it starts with looks and appearance.

It may sound old fashioned, but women do still find a man with a plan who wants to provide for her at least somewhat attractive. Men who demonstrate some providing abilities can certainly create that initial attraction, which leads to more second dates.

When you‘re on your second date and looking at a third date together, you are well on your way to a mature midlife relationship.

What do you think about paying for dates and the cost of modern dating?

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April Braswell is a senior dating expert, dating coach and professional dating profile writer. She leads dating, relationship and communication skills workshops throughout California. You can sign up for her ezine at www.AprilBraswell.com and get a free gift ecourse when you do. Connect with April on Google+.

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10 Responses

    It’s true, if I want to treat a woman out for a date, please don’t INSIST on taking the bill. I have my wallet out for a reason and am more than willing to pay for dinner.

      C. Price
      Cynthia Price (DatingAdvice.com)

      That’s great you have your mind set on something before the end of a date closes to an end. Being prepared is more efficient!

      April Braswell
      April Braswell (DatingAdvice.com)

      Hi Gary,

      Oh my goodness, yes, Senior Ladies do take note. Allow them to pay and be the gentleman you always secretly hoped for.

      Happy Dating and Relationships,

      April Braswell

    The only thing I would argue is that it’s not so uncommon to find a woman who will at least pay for drinks or maybe dessert. Instead of arguing in front of the waiter, I’d rather let her pay for what she wants, but I will want to pay for the majority of the bill, it’s only nice.

      C. Price
      Cynthia Price (DatingAdvice.com)

      It’s true, modern day dating is finding a balance amongst men and women so paying for a tab isn’t so much of an argument between the two parties.

      April Braswell
      April Braswell (DatingAdvice.com)

      Hi Taylor,

      That’s because you are such a gentleman, and do not desire to create an odd disturbance socially on those Senior First Dates. God bless you!

      Happy Dating and Relationships,

      April Braswell

    I always let the gentlemen take the bill. I think if it’s a formal dinner, he’s trying to impress me by paying for it, then I’ll let him. If we’re out for coffee and out for a lunch date, I don’t mind taking a tab. If it’s the first date, I let him pay, if we’re meeting for other less formal dates, I think we can meet in the middle.

      April Braswell
      April Braswell (DatingAdvice.com)

      Hi CleoKnows,

      Thank you for chiming in and joining the discussion conversation. Yes, let the gentleman be a gentleman. We can always reciprocate by giving back to him in feminine ways by inviting him over to our home for a home cooked meal, which so many of the baby boomer men miss massively. I’ll go into it more in a future article. You’re so helpful here. It’s great to have you in the DA.com community.

      Happy Dating and Relationships,

      April Braswell

    I have been wondering what to do an who pays for what. my hubby had dementia for 15 years so i was not out in the mainstream a lot. Now im trying to date an have lost guys by not knowing what to do an how to behaveI really appreciate any advice you can share.

      C. Price
      Cynthia Price (DatingAdvice.com)

      Hi Bonnie, don’t fret! There’s plenty of articles written by our senior dating expert, April Braswell, who really hits home on most dating topics you may feel a bit overwhelmed by. Check out our Senior Dating advice section for new articles! Here’s one to start off your day: What Not to Talk About On A First Date

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