Kody had lived in Fargo, North Dakota, most of his life and had plenty of friends, but one day he felt like he was in a rut. He wanted to meet new people to broaden his horizons and expand his social circle, so he asked on Reddit: “Anything a 22-year-old would find fun to do that would involve meeting new people?”
He wrote that he enjoys cooking and playing pool, but that he’d be open to a variety of activities. It didn’t take long for about a dozen people to send in their ideas and even offer to start a meetup with everyone in the thread.
While Reddit is an awesome resource for asking questions and getting quick answers, it can’t really cover all the bases, particularly in terms of meeting people. But that’s exactly what we’re here to do with this article. We’ve come up with 11 tips for helping Fargo singles come together for friendship, romance, and anything else they could be looking for.
Fargo Dating Sites
If you’re serious about finding a hookup or date, then you should be online dating. Nothing is more efficient than joining a community of millions of singles and being able to specify your individual wants and needs. Out of the thousands of dating sites out there, we’ve picked five that are the cream of the crop and can cater to a variety of singles, personality types, and the like.
Best Singles Site
Match is like the Oscar award of dating sites. Because it was founded in 1995, it’s the longest-running dating site. Plus, Match’s history, as well as its own advanced matching algorithm and trusted reputation, make it one of the most prestigious dating sites ever.
Best Site for Professionals
Fargo is home to North Dakota State University, North Dakota State College of Science, Rasmussen College, and Master’s Baptist College. Thousands of students and alumni live in the area, making it a mecca for intellectuals. If education is one of the top qualities you’re looking for in a date or partner, Elite Singles is one of the top dating sites to turn to. Approximately, 82% of its members, and counting, have earned a bachelor’s, master’s, and or doctorate degree.
Elite Singles is the premier dating site for educated professionals. Most members are upper-income with college degrees, and its impressive Fraud Detection system ensures no-nonsense dating. Full Review »
|Gender Ratio||M: 43% | F: 57%*|
Over 50 & Senior Site
More than 16% of Fargo’s population is made up of people 55 or older. For singles in that demographic who place an emphasis on age, OurTime has got you covered. In addition to being just for mature daters, the site has a clutter-free layout that makes it easy to move from registering to searching to communicating.
For Black Men & Women Only
Fargo is a wonderful city, but it’s not the most diverse. Only 1% of its residents identify as black, which can make dating frustrating when it’s supposed to be fun. However, that’s where BlackPeopleMeet comes into play. The site was created in the early 2000s with black singles in mind, and it now has more than 1.4 million monthly active users.
Hookup & Sex Site
Some people dream of having a husband or wife, a house with a white picket fence, two kids, and a dog and cat, but that’s not the ultimate goal for everyone. Some people aren’t in search of Mister or Miss Right; they are just looking for the one right now, and Adult Friend Finder can help them achieve that goal. With more than 77 million members, a free membership, live forums, videos, and private messaging, AFF, as it’s sometimes called, is the go-to platform for all things sex related.
Popular Dating Apps
Almost 120,800 people live in Fargo, and the city accounts for 15% of North Dakota’s population. Forbes has also said Fargo is the fourth fastest-growing small city in the US. All of this can make finding a compatible match akin to playing a game of Hüsker Dü. But if you’re on a dating app, you can find a winner in a matter of minutes. Here are our three favorites:
Zoosk is the number one app for finding dates, and if you sync up your Google+ or Facebook account, you can have a profile in seconds. The app has 38 million members and will deliver matches to your inbox on a daily basis based on your behavior such as who you search for, like or don't like, and message. The Carousel is another section for matching (tap the heart if it's a yes and the X if it's a no).
|Gender Ratio||M: 48% | F: 52%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
Available via the App Store and Google Play, Match is a fantastic app for dates and relationships. With a user base of 30 million singles, Match is where you'll have a high chance of success. It's free to download, create a profile, search for and receive matches around the corner and across the world, find missed connections, "like" people, as well as send and receive winks.
|Gender Ratio||M: 49% | F: 51%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
Commitment-minded, professional daters will feel at home with Elite Singles, which can be downloaded for free in the App Store or Google Play. Not only is everyone looking for a long-term partner, but 80% of members hold a bachelor's, master's, or doctorate degree. Elite Singles sees 210,000 visitors and 2,500 users finding love every month, so it's one of the fastest growing and most reputable apps.
|Gender Ratio||M: 43% | F: 57%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
Fargo Singles Bars
I’ve only bought a drink for a guy I didn’t know one time, and it turns out he had a girlfriend. Who knew?! I was still proud for putting myself out there, though, and it’s a move I — as well as other singles — should make more often. Below are eight Fargo bars where you’ll never run out of drinks to drink and people to buy them for!
1Würst Bier Hall
Open at 11 a.m., Würst Bier Hall has about 35 local, regional, national, and international beers on tap -- including Ectogasm from Fargo, SurlyFest from Minneapolis, Marionberry from Ft. Collins, and Oktoberfest Märzen from München. Don't forget to try the Bavarian pretzels, Jägerschnitzel, bratwurst, and spaetzle mac and cheese. If you're feeling bold, you could even take part in Würst Bier Hall's Das Boot challenge.
2The Toasted Frog
Founded in 2006, the Toasted Frog specializes in high-quality food and drinks served in a relaxing, welcoming environment. Plates range from Buffalo wings to elk burgers to fish tacos to wood-fired pizza and lemon cake. But the meal wouldn't be complete without a Pink Lemonade martini, Italian moscato, or Leinenkugel Honeyweiss. With 4.7 stars on Facebook, the Toasted Frog is not to be missed.
At JL Beers, it's all about the brews, of course, but it's also about the burgers — especially the Humpty Dumpty, which is topped with a fried egg. You've got a ton of choices in terms of the beer, whether you like malty, hoppy, light, fruity, or funky flavors. Andrea W., who had her first date with her now-husband at JL Beers, said: "JL Beers has to be my favorite place to grab a bite and a brew. All of the locations have great food and service, but downtown is my favorite for atmosphere."
The Box Sports Bar & Casino is located in the Fargo Inn & Suites, but don't let that fool you. It's one of the best places for a happy hour after work or fun night out. The Box serves grub the locals can't get enough of, including pickled eggs and fried walleye, as well as pizza, jalapeño poppers, and nachos. From 4 p.m. to 7 p.m. and 9 p.m. to 11 p.m., drink specials include $2 domestic bottled beers, $3.50 shots, and $6 domestic pitchers.
5Dempsey’s Public House
The quintessential Irish pub, Dempsey’s Public House has won awards for best bar, best open mic, and best karaoke since it opened in 2006. Head to the heart of downtown Fargo, and that's where you'll find it. When your stomach comes a callin', try the Italian beef sliders, pizza dippers, or tacos. Not to mention the free peanuts and popcorn! When your liver comes a callin', you, of course, have to get a Guinness or Smithwicks.
6Rosey’s Bistro and Bar
Rosey’s Bistro and Bar focuses on the three Cs: cheese, cheese, and cheese. As the team says, "Happiness is best served melted!" It's known for its grilled cheeses (e.g., Mom's Classic, the Greek, and the Old Bay Crab Melt) and cheesy appetizers (e.g., French brie fondue, spinach and artichoke dip, and rotating cheese boards). Rosey's doesn't skimp on the drinks either -- order a beer, wine, or cocktail and you'll love it.
Located in the Hotel Donaldson, the HoDo Lounge puts its all behind each and every drink, using infused liqueurs, roasted spices, and a little bit of chemistry. The team wants to make every gathering "an occasion to celebrate" and are there to serve you every day (11 a.m. at the earliest and 2 a.m. at the latest). Enjoy live music from local and national bands (such as the Blue Wailers and Kapeesh) while sipping on a beer(such as Summit Extra Pale Ale), wine (including Freixenet Cordon Negro), and cocktails (such as the Fargo Tea).
8Front Street Taproom
Front Street Taproom, which is housed in a former boutique, is on a mission to put local beers front and center, and provide Fargo "with another awesome place to drink awesome beer." Fargo Brewing, Drekker, Junkyard, and Prairie Brothers are a few of the breweries showcased at Front Street Taproom, and the wines are all from North Dakota and Minnesota, too. Soak up all that alcohol with some Italian herb and cheese rolls, gourmet popcorn, and beef sticks.
Fargo Speed Dating
We’ve all heard of speed dating, know a friend who’s tried it, or seen it in movies like “Hitch,” but forget about the preconceived notions you may have about it. Speed dating is totally different once you attend an event for yourself. It can be formal, it can be relaxed, it can include activities, it can include food, it can last four two hours, it can last for five hours — you get the idea. Turn to Eventful.com for all your Fargo speed dating questions.
Fargo Singles Events
The dates I’ve enjoyed the most were when me and the other person were participating in an activity. It made the getting-to-know-you phase flow more naturally because we had something to focus on besides what we looked like and should say to each other. Since 2015, Meetup.com has been an amazing resource for finding any kind of event anywhere in the world, including singles events like Zorb Ball (pictured).
Fargo Singles Clubs
I remember one time at a club a friend of mine met a guy on the dance floor who approached her during a song, and they immediately hit it off. Things just seemed to click for them — they moved to the music flawlessly and couldn’t take their eyes and hands (and, eventually, lips) off each other. That night may not have culminated in a relationship for them, but it’s still a memory she fondly looks back on. I’m sure most people have been there. For singles, dancers, and single dancers in Fargo, FargoMoorhead.org has everything you could ever want to learn about the top clubs in the city and surrounding areas (including locations, hours, pricing, and music).
Fargo Chat Rooms
We’re all used to the chat rooms we have today, but can you imagine having to use the chat rooms from the 1970s when they were created? We could only talk to one person at a time, and we’d have to watch each letter show up one by one as the person on the other end typed. If we were single back then, it would take forever to get to know someone and set up a first date. The good news is we now have thousands of chat rooms, including niche ones based on city and interest, that are large and fast — and we’ve highlighted five of them in this section.
The only experience some people have with personal ads are the ones posted in newspapers — like the ad Allie wrote in the movie “Single White Female” when she needed a new roommate. However, that was the 1990s, and things have most certainly changed. Personal ads are almost entirely placed online, and they’re very similar to dating profiles. Personal ads are also placed on platforms that practically work the same way as dating sites, so you have no problem figuring them out. We are fans of the following five personals sites because they’ve been around the longest and have some of the highest success rates.
Attend North Dakota State University Games
People in Fargo love their sports, especially North Dakota State University sports. The school has teams for football, basketball, and volleyball, among others. You’ve also got the Fargo-Moorhead RedHawks (baseball), Beez (basketball), and Derby Girls (roller derby) as well as the Fargo Force (hockey). Sports fans can support their local schools, teams, and athletes by attending the games. It’s also a good way to connect with people who have the same passion.
The university also hosts other events that are worth looking into like movie nights, fundraisers, concerts, and festivals. Stay up to date about the latest goings-on by checking out NDSU’s calendar.
Join a Religious or Spiritual Organization
According to BestPlaces.net, 61.67% of Fargoans consider themselves to be religious. The faith demographic breaks down this way: 18.34% Catholic, 0.9% LDS, 1.51% another Christian faith, 0.05% Jewish; and 0.21% affiliated with Islam. You can get a two-for-one by participating at a church, mosque, synagogue, temple, or other religious or spiritual center — revel in your beliefs and come together with those who feel the same.
Some of the religious and spiritual centers we found in Fargo include Bethel Church, River City Church, Fargo Baptist Church, the Presentation Prayer Center, the Centers for Spiritual Living, and the Spirit Room. To find others, google “religious centers Fargo” or “spiritual centers Fargo.”
Participate in the Startup Community
Many people may not know this, but Fargo is a huge tech hub, one that Fortune magazine said is vastly undervalued. In fact, the city has about 52 startups. Maybe you’re technologically skilled, or maybe you have a different talent you can bring to the table. Business Insider reports that 16% of people meet their spouse at work.
Even if you don’t currently work or want to work at a Fargo startup, you can still take part in the community. These companies put on a bunch of events all the time, including conferences, networking parties, fundraisers, meetups, sport matches, day trips, holiday celebrations, you name it.
"The Gateway to the West" Can Open the Gateway to Your Heart!
Kody wanted to meet some new people in Fargo, so he took matters into his own hands and made it happen. You can do the same by following the advice in this article — no Reddit needed! And remember that you have more control of your love life than you think. Good luck!
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