With more than 481,420 residents, Kansas City is the 37th largest city by population in the United States. However, if you’re single and looking to meet other singles, that number gets smaller once you take out the married people and children. It can be frustrating when you’ve tried what seems like everything and haven’t seen any results. That’s how TigerGradKC was feeling when he posted on Reddit that he had run out of ideas.
He received a bunch of responses from people who said they were experiencing the same thing. We don’t want to leave those Reddit users and folks like you hanging — so today we’re presenting 10 ways you can up your dating game in Kansas City and finally have that date or get into that relationship that you’ve been dreaming of.
Kansas City Dating Sites
This guide wouldn’t be complete without mentioning online dating — it’s hands down the go-to way to meet singles in your area. To help you whittle down your choices, we’ve picked what we believe are the five best dating sites — comparing them to the five best cuts of meat because Kansas City is part of beef country, after all.
Best Singles Site
Kansas City is known for having some of the best beef in the world, and if we’re comparing the meat to dating sites, then we’d say Match.com is like the filet mignon. It’s the highest quality, it’s the most popular, and it’s totally worth it. Match has been around since 1995, has more than 30 million members, and has facilitated the most romantic connections of any dating site.
Best Site for Professionals
Sticking with the beef analogy here, Elite Singles would probably be the ribeye. While this cut is tender, Elite Singles is understanding of any dating situation. While this cut is quick cooking, Elite Singles is fast working on finding you the perfect match. While this cut is flavorful, Elite Singles offers a satisfying experience.
Elite Singles is the premier dating site for educated professionals. Most members are upper-income with college degrees, and its impressive Fraud Detection system ensures no-nonsense dating. Full Review »
|Gender Ratio||M: 43% | F: 57%*|
Over 50 & Senior Site
OurTime has got to be the Kansas City strip steak of the online dating industry. It’s a classic just like the cut. And just like the strip steak won’t require you to put in too much effort (because it’s boneless), neither will OurTime. The site has a straightforward layout that will get you searching and chatting with single seniors in a couple of minutes.
For Black Men & Women Only
The top sirloin is a thick cut that’s great for a range of cooking styles: grilling, broiling, sautéeing, or pan-frying — similar to how BlackPeopleMeet is great for black and biracial singles whether they’re looking for friendship, dates, a relationship, or marriage. The site has more than 1.4 million monthly users and is a sister property of Match, which means it’s just as trustworthy and successful.
Hookup & Sex Site
If we had to choose a cut of beef for Adult Friend Finder, it would be the Porterhouse. It’s not shy about what it is, and neither is Adult Friend Finder. This casual sex site is the largest and most open-minded in its niche, with 77 million members interested in one-night stands, threesomes, orgies, swinging, affairs, and so much more.
Popular Dating Apps
One of my close friends has never had a boyfriend and was never really into dating while we we’re growing up. But that’s changed over the past few years because she’s joined a couple of dating apps. Her dating life has done a complete 180 — it’s no longer a lot of work on her part, and she’s going out with guys a couple times a week. Dating apps can do that for you, too — especially if you’re struggling to find enough hours in the day to meet even one person who you like enough to have dinner with. There are hundreds of dating apps out there, but we’ve found the only three you’ll ever need.
Zoosk is the number one app for finding dates, and if you sync up your Google+ or Facebook account, you can have a profile in seconds. The app has 38 million members and will deliver matches to your inbox on a daily basis based on your behavior such as who you search for, like or don't like, and message. The Carousel is another section for matching (tap the heart if it's a yes and the X if it's a no).
|Gender Ratio||M: 48% | F: 52%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
Available via the App Store and Google Play, Match is a fantastic app for dates and relationships. With a user base of 30 million singles, Match is where you'll have a high chance of success. It's free to download, create a profile, search for and receive matches around the corner and across the world, find missed connections, "like" people, as well as send and receive winks.
|Gender Ratio||M: 49% | F: 51%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
Commitment-minded, professional daters will feel at home with Elite Singles, which can be downloaded for free in the App Store or Google Play. Not only is everyone looking for a long-term partner, but 80% of members hold a bachelor's, master's, or doctorate degree. Elite Singles sees 210,000 visitors and 2,500 users finding love every month, so it's one of the fastest growing and most reputable apps.
|Gender Ratio||M: 43% | F: 57%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
Kansas City Singles Bars
According to YellowPages.com, Kansas City has about 150 bars, but they’re not all created equal in terms of people-meetability (yes, I just made that up). That’s why we’ve done the legwork to narrow down the options for you. These eight bars are definitely worth visiting:
"We're all in this together" is Voltaire's motto, and this "global eatery and purveyor of libations" is located right along the Missouri/Kansas border. You'll find tons of beers (like Deschutes Obsidian Stout), cocktails (like Bee's Jeans), wine (like Laudun Galets), and whiskeys (like Elmer T. Lee). In terms of food, you've got meat- and vegan-friendly options, including Thai Pork Satay, Faroe Island Salmon, Spaghetti alla Puttanesca, and Tacos al Carbon.
The Ship is an old-school diner and bar that initially opened in downtown Kansas City in 1935. It was demolished in 1993 but re-emerged and reopened in the West Bottoms area. The Ship hosts weekly jazz nights and other shows performed by musicians like the Greg Meise Organ Trio, the Soul Preservers, and the Naughty Pines. The bar is open Tuesday through Saturday from 11 a.m. to 1 a.m., and the kitchen is open until 10 p.m. — serving up snacks (fried pickles), sandwiches (muffuletta), full meals (meatloaf), and brinner, aka dinner plus breakfast (biscuits and gravy).
Located in the Stockyard District, Lucky Boys, has nightly drink and food specials such as a catfish basket and a Coors Banquet. For entertainment, the bar has pool tables and shows the Royals and Chiefs games. Tex Houston gave Lucky Boys five stars on Facebook and said: "Great people. Delicious food and cocktails. This joint has a great atmosphere, and the music is always good. Perfect place to go if you are alone or with a horde of berserkers."
Trago offers Spanish tapas but with a personal history behind them — the dishes are inspired by the founder's late grandmother. Share the ceviche de camarón, chicharrones, melón y jamón, or churros, and you won't regret it. Wash it all down with a top-shelf bourbon, glass of homemade sangria, or pitcher of margaritas. Trago also provides live entertainment such as Tuesday nights with Al Latta.
Head to Briarcliff Village, and that's where you'll find Trezo Maré. This restaurant and lounge prides itself on serving the best Italian cuisine in Kansas City. For example, all the produce is local, fresh, and seasonal, the seafood is delivered every day, and the steaks are cooked over a wood fire. The atmosphere and decor, with high ceilings, red booths and chairs, and warm lighting, also make Trezo Maré stand out.
Piropos brings Argentina to Kansas City, focusing on grilled meats, just-caught seafood, and exciting salads and vegetables. Menu items include breaded calamari with cilantro pesto aioli, grilled filet mignon with roasted garlic mashed potatoes and sautéed mushrooms, and flan de vainilla. For drinks, we'd recommend the Ar-gin-tini, but don't forget to check out Piropos' numerous wines and beers.
7Brown & Loe
Brown & Loe is housed in a building dating back to the 1920s and was a Merchant's Bank before it became a restaurant famous for its cured, smoked, and pickled meats. The team puts its spin on comfort food like grilled short ribs with stone-ground grits, green chili pork chop, and a coffee-rubbed brisket sandwich. The libations are just as interesting, and what caught our eye was the Black Velvet (Guinness and prosecco) and Claret Punch (red wine, lemon, and orange liqueur).
8Harry’s Country Club
Founded by Harry Murphy, who also owns Brown & Loe, Harry’s Country Club is a simple bar and restaurant that does everything extremely well. The stuffed mushrooms, fried bologna sandwich, and buffalo chicken mac and cheese made our mouths water. Go during happy hour when you can get $4 Bastard Bombs (Irish cream and cinnamon shot dropped into a glass of Stone Double Bastard and A&W root beer), $5 limoncellos, and $5.50 Stiegl cocktails.
Kansas City Speed Dating
Some people may think of speed dating as a formal event where you have to stay in your seat and have the same conversation over and over again with a bunch of strangers. But it’s really so much more than that. Events can be set in various locations (e.g., bars, restaurants, boats, and dance halls), have many different styles, and offer several activities to lighten the mood and encourage non-awkward interaction. Eventbrite has a long list of speed dating events just for singles in Kansas City, so give it a try if you haven’t already!
Kansas City Singles Events
Years ago, a group of us had a rock climbing day at a local gym where we spent hours challenging each other to see who could go the highest or tackle the craziest part of the wall. It was awesome because we got a workout in, but we also got to know each other a little better. The thing is activities like this can be turned into a dating tool, and you don’t have to do any of the planning like we did. Companies, like Lock and Key Events, will do all the work, and all you have to do is show up and mingle!
Kansas City Singles Clubs
In high school, my sister and her boyfriend at the time took a salsa class, and they absolutely loved it. They learned something new and grew closer together, but these kinds of classes aren’t just for couples. A lot of organizations and even clubs put on classes only for singles, and it’s a great way to hone your skills so you can show them off on a night out. (I know the country bar in my town has a line dancing lesson before things really get going.) We referred to Yelp on this one to find the top Kansas City clubs, and here they are:
Kansas City Chat Rooms
Did you know the chat room was invented in Cleveland, Ohio, in the 1970s? It’s come a long way since then, going from the dial-up AOL days to being able to send information across the world at almost lightning speed. Chat rooms today couldn’t be easier to use as well. For some, all that’s required of you is a username and an avatar. Below are five Kansas City chat rooms where you can get your flirt on (for free, by the way) and maybe even arrange a date if you come across that special someone.
Kansas City Personals
So, there are dating sites and dating profiles, and then there are personals sites and personal ads. But the secret is they’re basically the same thing. You provide details about yourself (age, zip code, gender, sexual orientation, etc.) and the type of person you’re into (appearance, religion, hobbies, education, etc.), post a photo, wait for incoming messages while browsing, and set up a meeting when you connect with someone. In this section, we list five personals sites with Kansas City-specific signup pages for even more efficient dating.
Join a Religious or Spiritual Group
BestPlaces.net has found that 37% of people in Kansas City consider themselves to be religious. Among them are 6.46% who identify as Catholic, 0.37% as LDS, and 6.14% as another Christian faith. Attending church or participating in a religious or spiritual group doesn’t just allow you to celebrate and explore your beliefs — but it also allows you to come together with those who have similar values.
The Center for Spiritual Living, the Ignatian Spirituality Center, and the Sanctuary of Hope, Prayer & Retreat Center are just a few of the faith centers in Kansas City. We found these by doing a Google search for “spiritual centers Kansas City,” so definitely feel free to search on your own and adapt the phrase as needed until you locate a place that’s just right for you!
Participate in Social Clubs & Organizations
I’m a huge Harry Potter nerd, and I go crazy when I meet someone who’s also a fan — talking their ear off about the story and comparing theories and things like that. It’s just so easy to talk to someone when you have the same interests. That’s why we’d highly recommend joining a social club if you’ve been having trouble meeting people.
From historical associations to health and fitness leagues to business organizations and coding classes, ExperienceKC.com offers a wealth of resources for choosing the ideal interest group.
Find Your Heart In "The Heart Of America!"
TigerGradKC and other Kansas City singles like him don’t deserve to be annoyed with dating. It’s one of the most enjoyable things in life, and they should be able to spend more time on the actual dating part, not the searching part. As the authority in the dating industry, our job is to help simplify the process, and that’s what we strive to do with the tips above. All that’s left is for you to get started!
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