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|Eduard Ezeanu • 9/25/14|
I find your behavior, conversation style and emotional reactions during a date will largely be determined by your mindset, how you think about the date and what your mind is focused on.
In order to improve their dating success, many guys learn various conversation tricks and techniques to apply during a date.
However, unless they have the right mindset, that will do little good because their mindset will keep pulling their conduct in the wrong direction.
Conversely, if a guy is in the right mindset, his behavior, conversation style and emotional reactions will largely take care of themselves and become aligned with that mindset, which will make the guy’s dating success soar.
This is why I’d like to show you three very powerful mindsets to practice whenever you’re on a date.
1. The Equality Mindset
This mindset entails the idea that you and the girl you’re dating are on the same level. She’s not better than you and you’re not better than her. You’re equals.
Most guys tend to put the girl they’re dating on a pedestal and make her seem above them. Consequently, they will try desperately to impress her and they will act in a very needy way, which is actually the perfect way to turn a girl off.
On the other hand, the equality mindset allows you to relax around the girl, be genuine and make effortless conversation, which, interestingly enough, has the biggest chances of making you attractive.
No matter what qualities the girl you’re dating has, bear in mind that she’s only human and think of her as your equal. She has her qualities and her flaws. You have your qualities and your flaws as well.
2. The Abundance Mindset
This mindset revolves around the idea that there are a lot of quality women out there, so even if your date doesn’t go well, you will have plenty of other chances with many other women.
It’s common for men to forget this when dating a certain woman, and they start believing if they screw it up with her, they will never find another great woman again. That’s never true.
“Make the date about enjoying
yourself, not impressing your date.”
There are plenty of great women in this world and you can meet many of them.
In order for this mindset to work well, it’s important to have a rich social life, go out regularly, have social hobbies and frequently meet new women.
This will make the idea that you can meet many quality women more real, whereas if you spend most of your time by yourself playing computer games, it only seems like a theoretical idea.
Have an active social life, and when on a date, have a mindset of abundance.
3. The Fun Mindset
This mindset is about focusing on having fun. Make the date about enjoying yourself, not about impressing your date, being appropriate, demonstrating value or anything like that. Just concentrate on having fun.
When this is your focal point, all sorts of amazing things happen. You’re more spontaneous and brazen, you joke around more and you make the whole experience more engaging for your date.
You’re actually much more likely to get positive reactions from her. Even if you don’t, at least you’re having fun in the dating process, which is at least as important as having success.
As you consciously practice these mindsets, your mind will get used to them and they will become your second nature.
As this happens, dating becomes significantly easier and more enjoyable and prolific. Your mindset makes that big of a difference.
Eduard Ezeanu teaches men how to be friendly with others and how to be more social, which permits them to quickly develop a rich social life and an abundant dating life. He posts practical dating tips on Twitter and Facebook, where he uses the handle @artofconfidence.
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