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|Alex Matlock • 9/25/14|
When it comes to scoring women, there are a lot of things that can influence your success.
Today’s list features some very important bits of knowledge that can really help get your mind into the game.
Yep, that’s true. When they see a guy, they don’t really think about banging him, but they do think about how awesome it would be if that guy picks them up and seduces them.
They want that guy to sweep them off their feet. At the end of the day, all single women are out there wishing an attractive man will show up, charm them and ultimately seduce them.
Most men think this isn’t true and that women are just bitchy for no reason.
Believe me, they don’t take pleasure in turning down a man. That’s why they often give a lot of hints and turn bitchy only when that guy just doesn’t get it.
The bottom line is women have to be picky. Similarly to how you might only go for the hottest chicks, she might only go for the dudes who get her interested. It’s just her personal taste in men.
Think of it this way: Every time you’re trying to pick a girl up, in the back of her head, she’s rooting for you.
She’s waiting for you to make her laugh. She’s waiting for you to make her feel good. She’s wishing you can make her have a good time.
If you can do it, you’ve got a straight shot to her bedroom. If you fail, she’s going to turn you down. It’s that simple.
It’s you who has to make all the right moves. She’s rarely going to help you along the way.
At the end of the day, you both want the same thing – to meet and fall for someone you like. You just can’t fake that.
It’s important to understand what women want in general, as this will give you a great idea on what sort of things you need to discuss and act out during your interactions with them.
As you start interacting with women, they will sort of screen you in hopes they’ll find something suitable in a partner.
They generally do this based on their emotions, which means if you can make them feel good, most of the time you’ll leave a very lasting impression.
On the other hand, screening them yourself is just as important. If you want to get yourself a girlfriend, you won’t be able to do that unless you start looking for the qualities you think will make her a great girlfriend.
Being hot is just one of those criteria and is usually never enough.
If you want your girlfriend to be well-educated, it’s a great idea to ask her about her education (uni, school, future plans, etc). You’ll be able to quickly weed out the girl who won’t be such a great candidate.
It might seem strange, but even as a man you want to have your own standards because they will allow you to manage your time more efficiently by pursuing higher quality women and not wasting your time with the ones you do not deem worthy.
“Mastering the art of
approaching is key.”
To most men, this is probably the biggest issue.
As I’ve discussed on countless occasions, being hung up on what to say is probably the biggest mistake guys make.
Women hardly care about the line you use to start a conversation, which is why you can usually say pretty much anything, as long as you keep a calm tone and smile on your face.
Personally, I like to keep things simple all the time. “Hi, I’m Alex…you are?” It always works. By always, I mean I’m always able to start a conversation that way.
The opener is never going to guarantee a lay, regardless of what you say.
I’ve met guys who overcomplicated things so much that it confuses the woman. If confusion doesn’t set in, an overcomplicated opener just shows her you care too much and lack that confidence.
Remember, the goal of a conversation starter/opener is to do just that – start/open a conversation.
If you’re not making any effort toward reading the woman you’re interacting with, you’re basically losing your time.
Reading her signs is the best and only way to know if you should go in deeper or just back out before you waste any more time.
If you don’t really know how to read women, just ask yourself this question after each and every single move she makes: Would she do that anyway?
For example, she moves her chair closer in order to hear you better. It’s pretty evident she wouldn’t do that unless she had some interest in you.
She smiles and tilts her head slightly. Again, it’s pretty evident she wouldn’t have done that if you weren’t there making her smile.
Knowing how to actually make an effort toward reading her is absolutely paramount. It may seem like a lot of work in the beginning, but in time you’ll see all the good and bad signs clear as day.
When it comes to meeting and sleeping with new women, you basically have two options. Either use your tiny social circle to get some action or pull out the big guns and start approaching random, unknown women.
The first option is a lot easier, as there’s always some initial comfort between the two of you, but it will give you a pretty small number of women to go on.
This is how most men meet new women and it is in no way an inefficient method.
Approaching random women (or cold approaching) is a lot harder to pull off. On the flip side, it provides you with basically an infinite amount of opportunities.
Mastering this skill requires a lot of rinse and repeat until you eventually become good at it.
Personally, I like to do as much cold approaching as I can. I consider that my main method of meeting women.
I’d say around 95 percent of the women I’ve been with have come from cold approaches. The other 5 percent have come from my tiny social circles (that’s plural).
This is why it’s important to know all your options and make good use of them.
Finally, you need to understand that each and every woman you’ll ever see in your life is an opportunity.
Once you’ve locked down your skills on how to approach women, the amount of opportunities you’ll have, and ultimately the amount of tail you’ll get, is going to be endless.
Mastering the art of approaching is absolutely key.
This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.
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