So you’ve got yet another first date lined up and you’ve done all your usual preparations: Got a new haircut, splurged on a sweet shirt from Men’s Wearhouse and prepared your go-to first date anecdotes. You know, the ones where you regale your date with stories about your political know-how, sexual experiences and religious beliefs all before your drinks have reached the table?
Guys, I know first dates can become mundane and you get tired of repeating yourself, but don’t jump into to a routine of memorized one-liners and answers. We all have a past, some more eccentric than others, but it’s best to keep those details under wraps until you know she is someone you can see yourself in a relationship with.
If you want a second date, avoid the following six topics on a first date.
If religion or spirituality is a big part of your life, there is no reason for you to be ashamed of it. However, religion is one of the touchiest subjects out there, especially when people don’t agree, and you’ll run the risk of offending your date if she doesn’t have the same beliefs as you.
This is someone you don’t even know and may never see again, so keep the topics light but still informative.
Politics is something that affects everyone’s lives, but it’s a serious subject that shouldn’t be brought up on a first date. Maybe you are pro-life but your date had an abortion a few years ago, and now that you’ve brought it up, she’s fuming because it’s a passionate topic for her. Plus, who wants to discuss abortion laws over spaghetti carbonara?
“Keep the conversation light and just enjoy
getting to know the basics about each other.”
Everyone has their own opinions on how to handle money, but a first date is not the time to give her tips about opening a traditional IRA versus a Roth IRA. She’s got a mind of her own or someone close to her who can help her figure out her finances.
And remember, she doesn’t need to know your financial history either, no matter if money is tight for you right now or you just dropped $100,000 on a new Porsche.
No woman wants to hear what your best pickup line is or how many “hotties” you’ve slept with. Your attention should be on the girl in front of you and not on telling her your “conquest” number, which we all know is lower than what you say it is.
Whether you’re still getting over your ex or you’ve got problems with commitment, save the excess baggage talk for another day. We all have dating issues in some form or another, but there’s nothing that will suck the fun out of a conversation faster than telling a date she looks like your ex-girlfriend.
It seems obvious that telling a woman you want to be married in six months and have a family as big as the Brady Bunch would send her running in the other direction, but it still seems to happen on so many first dates.
Who knows if she even wants to get married? What if she can’t have kids? These are very personal discussions that should be brought up with a woman who you can see a permanent future with.
You only get one chance to make a good impression on a first date. Keep the conversation light and just enjoy getting to know the basics about each other — like her favorite Bill Murray movie or your affinity for artisan cheeses.