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|Alex Matlock • 9/25/14|
I’ve been doing a lot of day game recently, simply because I wanted a change from the whole night game thing.
Amongst other things, I’ve noticed the whole point of a day-game routine is to get a solid number. There’s absolutely no reason to expect sex within a few hours when you meet someone in a coffee shop or on the train.
This article will focus on some of the most common things one needs to get down in order to become awesome and succeed with day game.
In a night-game scenario, not many people will see how you hesitate. When it comes to day game, hesitation is very visible and quite frankly one of the biggest turn-offs for women.
Oh, and let’s not forget it also leads to approach anxiety, which will eventually destroy any chance of success.
If you know you have approach issues, use the three-second rule and approach her with a basic opener: Hi, I’m Alex…you are?
This is not the best opener for any day scenario (the best ones are always situational), but at least this one is easy to remember and will stop you from hesitating.
This is tied down to the first point. If you hesitate, you will end up lingering around her like a creep.
The best thing to do is avoid hesitation, but if it just happens, walk past her and forget about it.
It’s a lot better if the girl doesn’t notice you hesitating and then lingering because you can have another go in the same location, either with her or with another girl.
Building a connection on an emotional and intellectual level with a woman is absolutely key.
Although the point of day game is to get in and out as quickly as possible, you’re never going to be able to land that solid number unless you build a meaningful connection. That connection is what eventually drives her to reply to your texts/calls the next day.
If you can get inside her head, you will win her trust and create immediate attraction between the two of you.
“If you plan on succeeding, you
need to get over fear of humiliation.”
All your qualities and flaws are a lot more visible during day game. If you’re not confident enough, you will come across as needy and women will feel that a mile away.
Work on building your natural confidence and present yourself as a true alpha male. Take control of your interaction and steer it in the direction you want it to go.
Do not confuse getting in and out as quickly as possible with rushing the whole interaction. The key word here is solid. If you expect to land a solid number, you need to make it solid.
Take your time, build that connection and don’t rush asking for it because even if she gives it to you, you’ll never get a reply. A solid number is 10 times better than five numbers that are just going to flake on you.
The biggest issue with day game is the people around you. Coffee shops, buses, trains and parks are not loud. People will see and hear you trying to pick these girls up. If you care about it, you’re never going to succeed.
The best thing to do is to have a IDGAF attitude about everyone that’s around you.
Sure, they might laugh with their friends about how you got rejected, or they may even laugh about how you’re trying to randomly pick up women in this particular coffee house. Do you care? You shouldn’t.
If you ever plan on succeeding at day game, you need to get over this fear of public humiliation because all those other people are never going to go away.
This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free ebook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.
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