Everything you need to know about dating you learned in high school. Sure, there may be some refinements that you pick up along the way to make the experience a little better for you and your date, but the basic ingredients are there.
1. Girls don’t bite.
We all start out with a lot of fear when it comes to approaching that luscious, irresistible girl who never leaves our thoughts. But part of what we like about her is her sweetness, gentleness and kindness.
Why would we expect her to bite our heads off or laugh at us if we strike up a conversation or ask her out? Fortunately, some of the other girls and even a few of the guys gave us the encouragement to talk to her, and it was pleasant, easy and the start of something beautiful!
2. A lot of girls like you.
Nature takes care of the hard part. We don’t know why but girls like us! Once you start to notice the “signals,” it becomes much easier to zero in on the ones who are already interested. It might be “instant interest” at a restaurant or on-going interest at work or school.
These are some of the “green lights” that don’t change over the years:
- The slightly widened eyes.
- The many glances.
- The genuine smiles.
- The tilt of the head when they look at you.
- The open body language.
- The rush of “girliness” that comes over them when they are in your awesome presence.
3. Girls like to make out.
When you finally do get that special girl on a date during high school, all you can think about is kissing her lips and touching her face, but we figure she’ll take out a knife and slit our throats if we try. Well, we learned then that if a girl is willing to go on a date with you, then she is probably feeling those same urges. And when her heart’s in it, boy, can she kiss!
“Most of us don’t learn until after high school
that anything we give up for our lady comes
back to us a hundred-fold when we win her love.”
4. Girls are a whole ‘nother species.
These observations could fill volumes. Dating a girl is not like hanging out with the guys. You can unknowingly thrill her just by making some normal conversation about how pretty she looks and how much you’ve always liked her.
You can also really piss her off without even knowing it. Women can be very judgmental about things that aren’t even on your radar (“He showed up in a striped shirt and there was an empty McDonald’s bag on the back seat of the car. OMG!”)
We learned that we have to be able to read her mind (because she will never tell us if there’s a problem or what it is.) It’s best if we cater to her every whim.
They can cry at the drop of a dime. And their is a fine line (visible only to them) between being a bum and being a prince. Still, we can’t live without them. Go figure.
5. A great date can be cheap.
This is something we often forget later on. In high school, the most memorable moments are just being together, gazing into each other’s eyes. You spend all your money on a movie, the big barrel of popcorn and a burger afterward, but all she remembers is the walk along the lake with the moon and stars lighting your way.
You still remember the time you, your girl and a few other couples played charades at Sandy Banner’s house all night and your girlfriend laughed till she cried. Dates used to be all about the two of you, some fun times and some great kissing. They still can be!
6. A little respect goes a long way.
High school also taught us that girls really do like nice guys. When they finally dump their hard, controlling, bullying boyfriends, they are amazed and extremely drawn to the tender and considerate touch of a real gentleman.
We learned that if you appreciate a woman’s company, treat her like the lady she is and show her the respect and esteem she deserves, she might just be blown away by a guy who looks nothing at all like Prince Charming.
7. Having a girlfriend requires sacrifice.
The main thing we learned about dating in high school is that dating girls or having a girlfriend changes everything. Even a part-time relationship requires us to give up a little piece of ourselves that just doesn’t belong to us anymore.
Our time doesn’t all belong to us like it used to. Our choices are all subject to compromise. We have to please someone else now, too. What we do and where we go is somebody else’s business.
Most of us don’t learn until after high school that anything we give up for our lady comes back to us a hundred-fold when we win her love.