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|Nick Slade • 9/19/12|
Every human being is deserving of love, and every man was born with the natural ability to attract a lover. Still, it can often seem that civilization, circumstances and mindsets make it impossible to attract love.
But bear in mind that thousands of women are also searching for love in the face of the same uncertainties and obstacles, so it is genuinely realistic to presume that by combining the proper knowledge with a bit of effort, it is possible for a man like you to attract some love, sweet love.
It all starts from deep inside yourself. If there is one key to bringing love closer to you, it is simply to be lovable. It sounds as simple as to be useless information, but there is a lot that goes into lovability.
The Law of Attraction, in its most basic form, says that “like attracts like.” People interested in Dungeons and Dragons somehow find each other and play the game. Chess players attract other chess players, artists flock together with artists, golfers with golfers and so on.
In order to attract love, you have to be a lover. Lovability is not an empty cup you hope, like a beggar, someone will fill up. Love is a full cup with levels of love leading to commitment. If there are no others to accept your gift of love at the moment, then you must begin by loving life and yourself.
Start by realizing that love is an action, not a state of being. Love, as a kinetic force, will make you more attractive as the object of a woman’s affection. Love is not the road to happiness. Happiness is the road to love.
You must be able to find fulfillment and contentment within yourself in order to get your magnetic love light burning for others to see. Don’t look for fulfillment in a woman while you remain lifeless and empty. Let her find fulfillment in you.
Be the prize that makes a woman feel happy and complete. Be the source of her joy, not the parasite that feeds off of her energy. Feed each other and take both of your lives to a higher level.
You don’t have to spend each day searching for the woman of your dreams. Spend each day transforming yourself into the man of her dreams. The best way to do that is to have a life.
Find a passion and make it happen. Expand your horizons from single-player games to activities that involve other people. So what if you’re not a happy hour kind of guy?
Join your friends, meet their friends, have a cold beverage, throw a few darts, make a fool out of yourself on the pool table, laugh, let loose and start bringing your personality out to the surface where you and others can enjoy the man you’ve kept hidden inside.
“Always remember that you have
the ingredients to attract love.”
You will never be comfortable with a woman or even with love in the long run until you are comfortable and confident in new situations. Strike up a conversation with a new group of guys at the pub, join your buddies on that ski junket or fishing trip you always turn down or finally take up that offer from the girl in accounting for coffee, even though you don’t think it’s a romantic match.
All of these experiences will make you more comfortable in your own skin, more confident in your abilities and more attractive as a vibrant human being to others. The more social experience you get, the more natural you will be as a man and the more attention you will garner from the ladies.
Nothing attracts the attention and affection of women like a strong, confident man. The little-known secret of confidence is that you don’t have to have it to show it. The appearance of confidence can actually come before the feeling. Yes, you can fake it until it becomes real.
Remember when you were a small boy in tears and Mom or Dad tried to make it better? They would tell you to dry your tears and smile, and then you would feel better. And it worked! It still does.
If you plaster a smile on your face, you will release endorphins and actually feel happier instantly. Try it right now. When you smile, you can’t help but feel happy. The same is true of confidence.
You know how a confident man looks and acts. He stands straight and tall, walks with authority, holds his head up, smiles, looks people in the eye and speaks like what he says is worth listening to. He is animated, involved and integrated into the situation at hand.
Practice appearing confident at home in the mirror. The mere actions associated with confidence will make you feel more confident. Confidence is a feeling, and if you act confident, then you will feel confident. Before long, it will no longer be an act.
Now that you’ve transformed yourself from a brown Ford Focus into a red Corvette, take yourself out for a little spin. Don’t lose the focus of all your efforts. You are looking for love, not for fast, meaningless satisfaction.
Use your new superpowers for good, not for evil. Take baby steps, but get involved in life and with the women you are interested in. Women are also very attracted to men who notice them and show interest in them.
Try to win them as friends first, and they will open the door to more possibilities if you play your cards respectfully.
Don’t wait until you’ve found the perfect woman before you ask a girl out for a date. Have a lot of coffee dates and attend a lot of social gatherings. If the girl you really want sees you spending some time and being nice to her nerdy friend, she may realize you are a man with a good heart.
Once you start dating, other girls will notice you more. If she had a silent crush on you, they may feel the need to act before you are taken. Just take it slow, and don’t make commitments until you have someone you can see some kind of future with.
Love is everywhere, but it requires a little effort to get all your senses tuned in to its subtleties and nuances. You really are a natural-born love machine created by nature to love a woman and to be loved by her as well.
Always remember that you have all of the raw ingredients you will ever need to attract love. It is your task to hone those ingredients to make them irresistible to the female gender.