I Have a Crush on a Girl. How Do I Ask Her Out?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I’ve developed a crush on the girl where I get my hair cut. My first concern is asking her out where she works, as I don’t want to embarrass her while she’s on the job. Second is I’d like to avoid any awkward tension the next time I get a haircut should she say no. Third is when to ask her out.

I got my hair cut recently, so I won’t need another trim for about a month. I’m sure barging into the shop and asking her out could be a bit strange, but I’m eager to let her know she’s on my mind and to make plans. Rumor has it she may have her eye on me, too.

Any advice would be extremely helpful.

-Mike (Massachusetts)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

My heterosexual self: I have a crush on my hair girl, too.

They are stylish and great at chatting anyone up and somehow mine has the ability to remember everything I say.

That said, we aren’t the only ones who notice their great qualities and they get hit on a lot. Luckily mine is one of my closest friends, so I had the access to run this scenario by her.

You have two options to optimize your chances sparking something with your hair girl.

1. Friends

If you are young adults, ask her out but in a group/friend setting. Say something like, “Hey do you and your friends like _____ (outdoor concerts/wine tasting/80s karaoke, etc.) Me and some friends are looking to go to _____. If you and your friends want to come, it should be fun.”

This opens the door to see if she’s interested in seeing you outside of work capacity but is nonthreatening and can get you her number.

2. Get her number.

You definitely want to ask her out in private. You can go the direct route and just ask for her number (can be embarrassing for her). Or you can try to get her number under the work guise (but she’ll probably know what’s up).

Ask her if she ever does private bookings of her appointments or if she has a business card/number for you to send her referrals.

From doing your hair so long, she should already know if you guys click, so she probably already has the decision made in her mind. If she likes you, she’ll recognize your effort and make it easier on you.

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