Does This Girl at School Like Me?

Kara Pound Kara Pound • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

There’s this girl at my school that I like, but I’m confused as to where her mind is at. Here are a few things she does:

  • She always compliments me, on both my looks and intelligence.
  • She tells me about her personal life. (We talked about each other’s past relationships the other day.)
  • We have a smooth conversation when we talk in person.
  • She remembers things I tell her.
  • She cares about how she looks and smells around me.

More stuff that I can’t get off the top of my head!

I really like this girl, but I’m confused as to whether she likes me or not. What are your thoughts? Does she like me? Or does she not? Is she questionable?

Thank you!

-David H. (California)

Expert’s Answer:

Hello David,

It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into this girl at school. It also sounds like the two of you are close – sharing personal information with each other and getting intimate enough to know how she smells. But I’m curious why instead of just letting the relationship evolve organically, you feel the need to label it or define it. I know you want me to tell you point blank that this girl likes you, but I can’t do that.

What I can tell you, and you may not want to hear this, is that if you want to know that badly, then you’re going to have to ask her. Yes, easier said than done. But if you want a concrete answer and you’re not willing to just let the relationship progress, then you need to see where her head’s at and have “one of those conversations.” It sounds like you have a pretty good chance with this girl, so good luck and let me know how it turns out.