I Didn’t Meet Anyone. How Do You Know These Sites are Legit?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I joined Match.com for a few months and sent almost 200 emails to people I was interested in meeting. Two or three wrote back but then disappeared.

I wasn’t able to meet anyone, but the site was happy to collect all of my money for my time.

How can I be sure this site or any site is legitimate ? How easy is it for the site to post photos and hire a couple of people for minimum wage to respond or send flirts just to get guys to join and pay?

I’m definitely thinking of retaining an attorney to expose the scam of online dating.

-Jim (Florida)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

First of all, I’m really sorry to hear of your experience with online dating. I could see how that would be very frustrating.

To answer your question about ensuring a site’s legitimacy, there are definitely a lot of scam dating sites that prey on people’s hopes of finding love. Recently date.com was accused of the very thing – mixed reviews on their legitimacy.

Match.com isn’t one of them, not in the sense you are thinking.

Are they in business to make money? Yes, so you’re right in that they are happy to collect money, but they aren’t loading their site with fake members just to reel you in and collect your dough.

As an online dating coach who has helped tons of daters get matched through online dating, and as quality woman who has used Match.com to meet my own boyfriend, I can assure you millions of quality people are on online dating sites.

This is not to say there aren’t scammers online. I understand you want to find fault with the medium to explain why your responses weren’t better.

Without seeing your specific scenario, it’s hard to know why your responses were so low.

While the medium is far from perfect, I can imagine about a hundred different possible reasons why things didn’t go your way, but a lawsuit shouldn’t be your next move.

Read some articles here on how to be good at online dating.

If you’re completely over online dating, try a matchmaker, dating coach or speed dating. There are a lot of us out there committed to helping you find someone worthwhile – something the retention of an attorney can’t provide.


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