How Often Should I Talk to a Woman I’m Interested in Online?

Kara Pound Kara Pound • 9/25/14

This is a tricky question because there are so many factors that can determine the answer. If you’re interested in a woman you met online, ask yourself a few things: How long have you been chatting? Is she as responsive as you are? Have you met in person yet?

If you just met someone, then everyday conversation is too much. Even if the woman is responsive, she may get overwhelmed or scared off by how many times you message her. If you’ve met her in person a few times and everything went great, then messaging every day can work out in your favor.

Either way, be conscious of how often a woman responds to your online messages and how long it takes her to reply. If she only writes back once a week, then obviously don’t message her seven times a week. If she usually gets back to you when she’s home from work, then message her closer to the end of the workday. Just remember to be thoughtful and never pushy.