How to Get a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend

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How to Get a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend

Alex Matlock Alex Matlock • 9/25/14

Every week, more and more guys tell me they’re having success at sleeping with women but are finding it way too hard to start a relationship.

I want to look at how to actually turn a one-night stand, or basically any girl you had sex with, into a girlfriend.

Some people might argue that one-night stands are bad for girlfriends.

While some girls are indeed way too easy and are not worth the effort, I like to believe if you manage to score a one-night stand, it is because you’ve got game.

Think about it this way: If you’ve managed to do everything right and she simply could not resist, how is that her fault?

The only reason any girl becomes a one-night stand is because you CHOSE to. If you want to get a girlfriend, try NOT classifying every girl you sleep with as a one-night stand.

Every girl can be your girlfriend and the process from hello to having sex should be identical.

No, you don’t have to buy potential girls flowers. No, you don’t have to take them on dates.

The difference between a one-night stand and a girlfriend is what you do after the act.

If you’re the one telling her to leave after you’ve done it, then you’re the one who doesn’t want anything else.

Introducing her into your world.

In my experience, the best way to turn any girl into a girlfriend is to make her part of your world.

This is actually what also makes her fall in love with YOU. It’s not the impressions of you or the guy you pretended to be in order to sleep with her. It’s YOU in all your entirety.

Making her part of your world is something women live for. The more you get her involved in your life, the more she wants to feel comfortable in it. The more she wants that, the more she does it.

This is done by a lot of guys without even realizing it.

This article is here to show you exactly what’s going on in the process and how you can spin things into your favor.

Let’s look at an example:

So I get this girl home with me and I manage to sleep with her. Now what?

Well instead of asking her to leave, I give her a pair of my clean boxers and a T-shirt and take her into the living room (not any girl, but at least the ones I think are worth a shot).

I have some cool girl roommates (all girls) and we watch a lot of classic movies. Let’s say we were watching “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” on this particular night.

I always have a bottle of wine and there’s this nice white shaggy carpet in front of the TV.

I sit her on the carpet, give her a glass of wine and start watching the movie. It’s important to note that I never asked the girl what she wanted to do, but rather I got her to do whatever I felt like doing.

Let’s be honest here: What girl wouldn’t want to drink wine and watch a classic movie, chilling with a dude she just had sex with?

In any case, if she hates this sort of stuff, then I instantly know she’s not the girl for me. The same goes for you and any of your “world” activities.


“The more you listen, the more

she will fall in love with you.”

What makes this so special?

Well what she’s doing now, right here with me, is something she will never, ever do with anyone else.

It’s truly unique and that makes her special because she can partake in such unique activities. This is the sort of stuff women die for.

If she stays the night, that’s even better because she will be part of my world even more in the morning.

When I wake up, I go make breakfast. I don’t ask her what she wants but more give her exactly what I’m having.

Because I like to keep “healthy,” let’s say in this particular morning she gets eggs and bacon. She’s literally experiencing part of my life.

If she’s got more free time and I’ve got stuff to do, even better. I take her with me.

I can take her to the car parts store to get some rims for my car. On the way, I can talk about my car and other stuff that matters in my life.

Does she care? Not much but what she does notice is a guy that’s taking the time to educate her about useful things in his life.

What does this mean to her? She instantly knows you’re genuinely interested in having her around.

You’re basically telling her you’re willing to commit without actually telling her anything.

If she’s OK with whatever it is you’re doing, soon enough she’ll fall in love with the REAL you.

Keeping her interested.

Now that the initial hurdle is passed, you need to show her constant commitment by keeping her interested.

In general, when I’m in a casual relationship, I tend to speak to her maybe two to three times a week by text or phone.

If I’m in a “relationship,” I’ll have to send her at least five to 15 texts a day. This proves to her I’m genuinely interested in her existence.

When talking to her in this manner, you need to be doing two main things: You need to ask her about what’s going on in her day, and you need to tell her about what’s going on in your day.

It’s not rocket science and women love it. They want to hear about all sorts of stuff like what you had for lunch and what arguments you’re having with your roommates.

She’s also going to tell you what she had for lunch and what arguments she’s having with her roommates.

It’s all normal, so don’t get too worked up about it. This is the sort of stuff that builds up a relationship.

The more you listen to what she’s telling you, the more she will fall in love with you. It’s really easy when you think about it this way.

And the good part is you’re actually getting to know this other person and soon you’ll be very good friends. This, my friends, is what people call a RELATIONSHIP.

If you’ve got it this far, the girl will be thinking about you on the bus, on the bench, at work, with her friends and basically every day and everywhere.

To recap, all you need to do in order to turn a girl into a girlfriend is:

  • Skills to get her in bed
  • Making her part of your world
  • Constant interest in her existence

Guys, are you going to use these tips to get a girlfriend? Which one did you find most helpful?

This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free ebook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit  – a place where the “dating” mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.

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