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|Nick Slade • 9/25/14|
Friday is the day we get our prowl on. We take an extra-long shower, snip the wild hairs around our ears, nose and forehead, put on our best cologne and most fashionable lucky shirt, and practice our smoldering poses and sophisticated laughs in front of the mirror. Then we go out, determined to meet Jessica Biel’s twin sister and win her heart and body.
Does it ever work? Well, there was the hobbit who had a smile vaguely reminiscent of the cute but chubby friend on “Happy Endings” (when you squint in the dark) you got lucky with a couple of months ago. And there have been a few other unmemorable close encounters of the “eh” kind.
News flash: Women exist 24/7/365. Every other person on the street and on the planet is a woman, and a reasonably high percentage of them have the ability to make all your dreams come true.
But you have your radar shut off or you just don’t consider a Tuesday bus commute to be an approachable situation.
Get with it, guys. Every day there are possibilities in the air — enough possibilities to change your life. It’s time to start living like every day is Friday.
Actually, Friday is one of the most challenging days to meet someone special. It’s hard to stand out in a crowd. Every guy has his game on, which makes it downright hard to compete or even get noticed.
Not only that, but every girl you really want has her defenses up because she believes all the guys are crawling out of the woodwork just to sully her virtue.
The girls come out with the best intentions too, but they are predisposed to shoot guys down first and then wonder if they were good guys later.
That’s why you always seem to end up with the desperate, sexually frustrated girls who have decided they’ll just take the first guy who comes along.
But it never works out because they hate themselves later for being too easy, and then they blame you. And you don’t see any point in pursuing a girl who offers no challenge anyway.
Friday night meat markets stack the deck against you and put the whole dating process into an artificial bubble that has nothing to do with real life. It makes it impossible for men and women to judge each other realistically.
“You already know the possibilities Friday and
Saturday nights hold, so just carry that mood over.”
Once you realize that real everyday life presents the best and most realistic opportunities to meet women, the more relaxed, confident and successful you are likely to become.
Dating and relationships are part of the natural order of things, and the bar scene pickup routine is the furthest thing from natural.
Commuting to work or school, working or taking classes, eating lunch, pumping gas and shopping are some of the real aspects of your life that give you a chance to meet great women.
And the good news is they will see you as a normal, regular guy rather than a potentially dangerous sex-crazed stranger.
You can use real charm and small talk to engage a woman rather than tired lines and insulting come-ons. You don’t need that fascinating eyebrow curl you practiced in the mirror. You only need to be yourself.
Still, the thing that Friday has going for it is that we are concentrating on the task at hand and making an effort to spot a potential girlfriend and act on that impulse.
So what’s to stop you from doing that on other days? And how can you be ready to approach every day like it has Friday’s potential for meeting a special lady?
Here’s an idea: Set your alarm to buzz one minute earlier. That’s right. This will help in several ways.
When you open one eyeball and see 6:44 a.m. displayed on your digital readout, you will instantly know what that means.
It’s a reminder to look for that special girl today, and it will be the first thing on your mind when you get out of bed.
It also gives you one extra minute to make yourself presentable. You don’t need an extra half-hour like you need on Friday night. You’re heading for the shower anyway.
You just need one minute for an extra-close shave, a quick trim of the nails or wild hairs and a few moments to give yourself a pep talk in the mirror.
Now you are just as ready and just as presentable as you are on Friday night. It doesn’t matter that you’ll be in classes all day or receiving shipments on a loading dock at a warehouse.
The girl from UPS will be there, and HR will be bringing through the new girl in accounting or sales. And this time you will actually see them, smile and maybe even speak.
You already know the possibilities Friday and Saturday nights hold, so just carry that mood over to the rest of your life.
Sundays also have great potential at church or brunch or the sports bar for nachos and football.
Whether you’re going to the club, school, work or the grocery store, you can only tap into the possibilities of life if you remember that it’s always game on.