I Can’t Tell if She Likes Me. Any Hints on What She Feels?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I went out on the first date and things seemed good. There was flirty eye contact and some kissing. However, I can’t tell if she actually likes me or if it’s just purely lust between the two of us. Since this woman is very shy and tends to suppress her emotions, I have trouble reading her.

Any hints on what she really feels?


Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Daniel: Here’s the great thing about courtship. If you hang in there long enough, you get to see how it all turns out.

There are, of course, ways to fast forward this romance that will almost guarantee a tragic ending.

For instance, if your characters have sex before they have commitment, you may see a scene filled with regrets and apologies. And if your male lead pushes for too much emotional communication too soon, you may see a scene where she is running away down a rainy street at breakneck speed.

Just wait. The scenes will play out in restaurants, movie theaters, at home cooking together or doing mutual activities. Soon you will know.

And if the movie drags on too long and you still don’t know……well, then you have a box office bomb.

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