I Have Stronger Feelings for Her Than I Thought. What Do I Do?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

For a year now, I’ve been friends with this girl. After conjuring up the courage, I’d decided to ask her to go out on an adventure with me. She said our adventure could be considered a date.

The next day, she acted as if nothing was different. She started acting increasingly strange, and when I’d finally had it with all this confusion, I broke our friendship up and have been miserable ever since. Now she will not reply to any calls or texts.

I have stronger feelings for her than I’d thought and don’t know what to do.

-Alex (Arizona)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

It sounds like you worked up the courage to find out if she was romantically interested in you. Kudos on manning up. Making the decision to put your feelings out there meant you would find out if she felt the same.

You got your answer, Alex. She doesn’t feel the same. Feeling hurt is an acceptable and natural process, but a groveling man is attractive to no woman.

Pick yourself up and move on with your life, and you’ll find a girl who will be stoked to be with a guy who wants to take her on adventures.

In the meantime, if you ever want to be attractive to your old friend, being successful in moving on with your life will be the thing that will make her question her decision.

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