I Like This Girl at College. How Do I Make a Move Without Being Creepy?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I go to a community college and there is a girl I like that goes there as well. The problem is she’s always walking. She’s never sitting at a table so I can just sit with her and talk.

The only way I can talk to her is just wait for her class to end and walk with her as she walks by the lounge.

What can I do to make a move on her without her thinking I’m a creep?

-Shane (Pennsylvania)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Shane,

Particles in motion attract other particles in motion.

Obviously if you are standing at her classroom door every time she exits, you will be taken for a creeper. But if you happen to run into her at random intervals, then get in stride and start talking.

After you’ve developed a rapport, ask her to meet for coffee sometime.

On the other hand, if you are having trouble developing a rapport because you find her walking faster when you appear, then you have an answer my dear. Find another target – maybe one who is not moving.

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