Reader Question:
I think she has a crush on me. I sent her a message on Facebook that said I never got a chance to meet and fully introduce myself. She ignored it. I sent another a week later and still ignored. I’m guessing she is shy because around others she’s social and participates in class.
I got her number from my friend who gave it to me because I mentioned I am having trouble.
What should I do next? I feel like I can reconcile maybe?
-Jordan W. (California)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Try to say hello in person. If you don’t get a warm response, then you know the rule, three strikes and you’re out. Move on.
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I don’t get it, Jordan. Why do you think she has a crush on you if she ignores you at every turn?
Aww jordan, it’s ok! I agree with Wendy, definitely talk to her in person, just because she didn’t reply to your facebook messages doesn’t mean she won’t talk to you face to face. Just be really cautious not to scare her!
Great advice SpinningAround! The young lady may be avoiding confrontation online but if you’re cautious about your approach in person she may be willing to keep a conversation going before and after class
Yea I’d say talk to her in person, don’t make it awkward if she’s in your class and she ignored your online attempts…