I Want a Shot with My Co-Worker. What Should Be My Next Move?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I’d like to find out if I have a shot with this girl at my job. We laugh and joke but I haven’t gotten to know her that well.

I know she has a boyfriend because he works here too. So that MIGHT be an issue. I’d just like to see what happens.

What do you think my next move should be?

-Chase (Georgia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Chase,

Well, you are an optimistic man. You have a co-worker in a committed relationship with another co-worker and you’re ready to make the moves.

While I appreciate your energy, I want you to use your empathy here. Specifically, I’d like you to put yourself in her boyfriend’s shoes. How would you feel if a guy was moving in on your girl?

My advice: Do the moral thing. Maintain clear respectful boundaries and you will be rewarded with a solid love – maybe not love from her, but it will be love from someone who is attracted to your ethics.

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