I Want to Have a Real Date. What Can I Do?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I’m 22 and I met a 33-year-old woman. She looks like she is in her mid-20s. I told the girl I had very much enjoyed her company and hoped to see her again. She suggested I look her up on Facebook and we keep in touch. I live in Philly and she lives in Wilmington, Del.

I am very attracted to her and would like to have a real date, yet I am stumped as to what to do now. I am not sure if she enjoyed my company as just friends or if she would be interested in a date. It will have to be an online interaction initially.

What can I do?

-Sean (Philadelphia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Sean,

What are you looking for? Is it time for you to settle down (average age of first-time marriage for men is 27) or to have a fun long-distance girlfriend?

If it is the latter, it might be unfair to eat up the last remaining years of a woman’s fertility window.

By the way, the height of female fertility is age 20. At 30, there is a dive. At 35, there is a huge dive.

If she wants to be a mother, either plan to get serious or back off. And if you plan to get serious, don’t fall into an online fantasy relationship.

Call her. Go visit. The answer will be clear much sooner if you do.

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