I’m in Love With My Ex-Girlfriend. What Should I Do?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 10/05/12

Reader Question:

I am still in love with my ex-girlfriend who I broke up with due to her dealings with drugs and cheating. She will not take me back but tells me she will come back one day, she misses me, still loves me and promises she “won’t mess it up next time.”

What should I do?

-Shawn (North Carolina)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

We all think we can return to the rosy days of a previous love relationship, but most often we return quickly to the worse of days. The best prediction of someone’s future behavior is their past behavior. I wouldn’t count on her being a completely different person if she returns to you.


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