I’ve Liked Her for a While. Do I Tell Her?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

There’s this girl who I’ve had crazy feelings for. A few years ago, we talked about dating, but her best friend wasn’t really happy because she actually had feelings for me.

Now time has passed and her friend is over me and our friendship has blossomed. But I don’t know what to do.

Do I ask her out on a date or tell her I’ve had these feelings for a long time?

-Zac (Michigan)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Zac, totally ask her out. See where it goes and take it one step at a time. You don’t need to go from friends to soul mates in a day.

Don’t play the “I’ve had feelings for you for a long time” card. That’s a heavy play and could freak her out. It’s something you can mention at any time in the future once you know her feelings are equally as strong.


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