I Live with My Parents. Can I Be Successful at Dating?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I’m a man who just turned 29 and have been focused on my career/finances ever since high school, so I’ve never dated. I am living at home with my parents even though I’m financially secure. We get along well and we generally feel like it’s best to live at home until marriage.

Given my age, I’m wondering if most girls will take a negative view of me living at home. I own land nearby that I’d like to build my dream house on, but I’m a little hesitant to take this huge step without sharing the decision with a potential wife.

Do you think I can successfully date living at home at age 29, or should I move out first?

-Brandon (Indiana)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

While you are financially wise, this is one of those things that just doesn’t bode well at your age.

Not to say you can’t meet a girl still living at home. It just makes it harder, and since dating is already going to be new to you, you want to give yourself the best chances at it.

Move into an apartment for a bit. Figure out what it’s like to be responsible for a household. You’ll look more like an adult interested and ready for a serious relationship, which adds to your attraction.


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