Is it OK for My Girlfriend to Be Alone with Guy Friends?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

Is it OK for my girlfriend to be alone with a guy friend doing various activities?

She has a guy friend she hikes alone with and another male friend she goes running with. She has told me many times she has no interest in him romantically, but I know she finds him physically attractive.

I also heard through one of her friends the guy she goes hiking with has a crush on her.

Should I tell her to stop spending alone time with them, or am I being insecure?

-Mark (Washington)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

You shouldn’t tell your girlfriend what she can or can’t do. You’ll set yourself up for even more trouble in your relationship.

Nor should you just have to eat it and feel awful. What you’re feeling is real and needs to be treated through communication.

Talk to your girlfriend about what you’re feeling and why, but do it in a positive way, asking her input on how to go about solving the situation.

In a healthy relationship, she’ll respect that she has some control over how you feel and will want to help curb that for you.


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