There are plenty of articles written for women looking to find Mr. Right online, but not too many are composed with men in mind. It seems most relationship articles are written for men by men who have no idea what women want any more than you do.
So, this one’s for you, fellas, written by a woman with plenty of Internet dating experience who has viewed thousands upon thousands of online profiles.
If you’re thinking about going to one of America’s favorite dating sites and building a profile, or you already have one and it’s not working the way you wish it would, these tips and tricks are for you. Implementing these suggestions is sure to increase the likelihood of attracting the kind of woman you’re looking for.
1. Create a complete profile.
Most online dating sites will have you fill out a questionnaire to match you with women you will be most compatible with. Answer every single question honestly and thoroughly. Give as much information about yourself as possible, and don’t leave anything blank. Empty spaces leave us thinking you have something to hide or you’re not appealing enough to keep us interested.
2. Never, ever, ever lie.
Don’t lie about your height, weight, income, smoking and drinking habits, whether you like to skydive, or anything else no matter how innocent your intentions are. You might think fibbing will increase your chances of finding that special someone, but nothing can be further from the truth.
C’mon guys, you’d be ticked if a 300-pound woman showed up to meet you after promoting herself as a fitness buff. Don’t be that guy. No one wants to be with a liar. Even liars hate liars! You might win points in the beginning, but the woman you’re interested in will head for the hills when she finds out you’re disingenuous. You want someone to love you for you, not for who you think she wants you to be.
3. Proofread and use spell check.
I am a stickler for grammar, and most women feel this way. I absolutely will not give a guy the time of day if he doesn’t make an effort to spell or punctuate properly. I need to know a guy I am checking out is intelligent and literary.
The women who don’t care about sentence structure are probably not too bright themselves. Now, if airheads float your boat, that’s another story. If writing isn’t your thing, get someone to help.
“You only get one shot at a first
impression. Make it count.”
4. A picture says a thousand words.
Be sure to post at least five recent pictures that accurately depict your physique. Don’t just post headshots, but post full-length shots of you in your best attire. Get a friend to take these pictures.
Don’t do what most men do, which we women always make fun of, and stand in front of the mirror to take a self-portrait. It’s lame, and so are pictures of you flexing your muscles. Be sure to get a shot of you standing next to something that will give women assurance that you are the height you say you are. Height is important to most women.
5. Do what you can to stand out.
When asked about your ideal date, don’t say “dinner and a movie.” Remember that women are inundated with messages, winks and flirts all day. Be clever and set yourself apart so she will see you as a cut above the rest.
There is an old adage that rings true, “If you can get her to laugh, you’ve got her for life.” We want someone to make us chuckle, someone we can have fun with. The humor factor often overrides looks, income and employment status.
6. Avoid bad pickup lines.
When you take the first step and contact a woman, be sure to engage her intelligently. Don’t send her a message that says, “Hey, baby, did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” And don’t send her the same message you send all the girls. Women have a sixth sense about that sort of thing.
Strike up a conversation that has the potential to go somewhere. You only get one shot at a first impression. Make it count.