She Works During the Week and I’m Lonely. What Do You Think?

September 14, 2012
She Works During the Week and I’m Lonely. What Do You Think?

Reader Question:

I’m in a very good relationship. However, weekends are the only times we have available. We met on and are in our 60s. She still works two jobs during the week and I’m semi-retired. I am very lonely during the week.

What do you think?

-Ben (South Carolina)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

It sounds like the two of you have different relationship needs and expectations. And your financial situations make it difficult to have as much leisure time as you’d like. But relationships aren’t just about filling leisure time with pleasure. They are about life.

Have you tried asking her if you can drive her to one of her jobs and grab a quick bite together between shifts?

If this isn’t practical and you love this woman, as I see it, you’ve got two choices. Suck it up every week and wait for her until the weekend, or open your semi-retired wallet and get her to quit one job.

No relationship is perfect. But a good relationship is worth keeping.

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2 Responses

    You should definitely start by talking to her about your loneliness. Sounds like you guys just need to reconnect.

    Sometimes day-to-day life gets in the way of relationships we care about, and maybe she needs to be reminded that your relationship is worth investing more time in.

    I don’t think it’s that she has “different relationship needs” than you. You’re just the first to ask the question. If you do have the money to help her out then yea dig into those semi retired pockets of yours and help her out!

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