Should I Stick to My Parameters Listed On My Dating Profile?

Bethany Heinesh Bethany Heinesh • 9/25/14

When it comes to identifying the characteristics we want in a partner, some of the traits we’re seeking are non-negotiable.

As we grow older, and hopefully wiser, we tend to become more flexible about what we will and will not tolerate in relationships. If you’re looking for love online, maneuvering the process that requires you to define your parameters can be tricky. Parameters are used to help filter out women you wouldn’t be interested in based on religion, political affiliation or appearance.

For example, you may insist on dating only athletic women, but some women who are in great shape may consider themselves average. You may not want to date women past the age of 35, but surely you’d be willing to go out with a hot 36-year-old who has a sparkling personality.  You might think you wouldn’t drive beyond 25 miles for love, but I’m quite sure if your dream girl lived 30 miles away, you’d go those extra five miles.

While I don’t think you should ever compromise when it comes to your values or other important core issues, when you get down to demographic parameters, I recommend leaving yourself some wiggle room.