Should You End It?

Men's Dating

Should You End It?

Robert Rodriguez Robert Rodriguez • 9/25/14

There comes a time when you are on the fence about staying with a woman. You can feel your mind teeter-tottering back and forth on the edge of staying or going.

Before you make that decision, consider some of the following aspects of your relationship:

1. Are you both on the same page?

You want to gauge what levels you are both at. For example, you may want to have fun downtown with the guys and flirt with women at bars, while your woman may want to spend more time alone with you or have more commitment.

On the other hand, let’s say both of you want commitment or both of you want to just have more freedom. Either way, you want to figure out where both of you are at and then talk about it.

If she is not OK with what you want to do, then that is a sign you may need to consider leaving. If she can fit you into her life with the desires and objectives you have at the moment, then that is more of an indicator you should stay.

Are you guys on the same page in regards to mentality, finances and hygiene? When you met her, she may have seemed a certain way, but now you are finding out about her habits, the way she conducts herself and her mental capacities.

Let’s say you are attracted to her at first because of her looks, but then you find out she is unkempt at home, doesn’t control her finances and thinks on a completely different wavelength than you. These are signs it’s time to go.

On the other hand, you find she is amazing at all these things or at least makes effort. That’s a sign you should stay.

Make sure she can keep up with you and your standards for yourself and your life.

“Evaluate things from

the most logical perspective.”

2. Is the physical aspect there?

When you first met her, you may have become enamored by her appearance, but now do you still find her physically attractive? Personality does come into play, but you have to at least feel a good amount of physical attraction to be able to stay.

If you find yourself constantly imagining yourself with other women or a strong urge to be with other woman based on their looks, then that’s a sign you should go. If you find your woman very attractive in your eyes, then you should stay.

Sex is also an important aspect. If your woman is putting in good effort to do well in bed, then that is a good sign she will get better with time. Though a woman may be average or less in bed, effort can make up for it.

On the other hand, if your woman doesn’t do much to please you sexually, then it’s time to move on. That important spark needs to be there and get hotter over time. Think about how this will affect you in the future.

3. Do you feel like you are yourself?

I find this to be one of the most important aspects or being in a relationship. This is really my top deal-breaker. When I am with a woman, I want to feel the freedom to be me.

If you feel restricted and stifled, then there is a problem.

Relationships should be two independent self-sufficient people coming together and making each other better than they were apart. It is very important that you are able to keep your identity while in a relationship.

If your woman lets you be who you want to be, then that is good. If she has you trapped or restricts too many aspects of your life, then she is not the one for you.

No matter if you have social pressure or she guilt trips you into staying with her, you should go.

In the end, if you still feel on the fence about things, you should follow your gut feeling. Deep down all of us know whether a relationship should continue or not.

If you have too many doubts, then it is time to leave. If there is a huge spark and potential, then maybe you should stay.

Keep your mind clear and evaluate things from the most logical perspective. Sometimes you have to learn the hard way like I have.

Either way, stay wise and focus on your life goals. That will make your decision a lot smoother.

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