There’s a Girl I Like at College. What Can I Do So She Notices Me?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 7/13/12

Reader Question:

There’s a girl I really like at my college who I’ve liked for quite some time. I’m a shy guy around girls and haven’t spoken to her because she’s always hanging around with these two other girls. I can never seem to catch her alone.

What can I do so she notices me?

-Hamza S. (Arizona)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

You are right to want to “divide and conquer.” Girl packs can be intimidating. But if you’ve shown up at various places and she seems to never be alone, then you’ve got to dive in and make yourself known to her and her girls club.

I hate to admit it, but one way to peek a girl’s interest is to flirt with her friends. Stop by her group, say “Hi ladies,” and give no special attention to her until the girls club accepts you.

Is there something you can offer the group? Study help? A ride somewhere?

If you’re shyness prevents you from being so forward, bring a wingman. Pick a guy friend who’s a good conversationalist and be clear with him ahead of time about which girl you have your eye on. Take a deep breath. You can do this!


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