Websites Seem Like the Place to Meet People. Any Advice?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I’m a single father who has raised all three of my children. My youngest is now 18 years old. I have been out of the single arena by choice and dedicated myself physically and mentally to raising my children. Now I’m 42 years old and feel completely lost on how to meet mature women.
With all the single websites, that seems to be the place people are meeting. I have to admit it is a little intimidating to say the least.
Any advice for this single dad?
-Chad (Oregon)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Chad: I am so proud of you for focusing on your children all those years. You totally did the right thing and now it’s your time to find the love you deserve.
My advice is simple. Be real and authentic online. Don’t write a profile about the guy you think women want to date. Write about who you really are. Then, when you contact women, don’t get into lengthy email relationships where you create a false intimacy before you’ve even met.
Meet for a quick coffee early on to see if there’s interest, and if you like what you see, let the second meeting be the real first date. Good luck to you. I’m sure you’ll be seen as a real catch when you tell women why you’ve been off the dating market.

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