What Does it Mean if She Has to Think About My Marriage Proposal?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 7/13/12

Reader Question:

What does it mean when a girl doesn’t want to lose you but when you propose, she says she has to think about it? Her friends say it’s because she is leaving for basic training.

-Charles W. (Georgia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

It means exactly what she says. She loves you. She’s attached to you. And she’s afraid to be without you.

But she also knows her life is about to undergo a big change where she will be challenged physically and mentally, where she will meet new people and be exposed to new things.

She’s smart enough to know that she’ll have grown into a different person when she completes basic training. And that’s why she doesn’t want to make a decision that could hurt you later.

Remember the old saying, “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it is yours. If it doesn’t, it never was.” This is one time when I can tell you to wait and see. The right thing (whatever that is) will happen in time.


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