What Good is Confidence if Women Don’t Give You the Time of Day?
|Dr. Wendy Walsh • 6/14/13|
Women say confidence is very important, but what good is having confidence if women don’t give a guy the time of day?
I’ve also heard if you don’t have (confidence) it, fake it. The problem with that logic is the woman will see through it over time.
What do you think?
Dr. Wendy Walsh:
You’re right. Confidence must be real. Faking it backfires every time. However, how does one become confident if a guy is feeling rejected by women?
Here’s the secret: I think life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, if you think you don’t have a chance with women, you will unconsciously choose women who will reject you so that your belief system will be validated.
Confidence starts by silencing the critical voices inside your own head. It continues by basing your self-worth not on people’s reaction to you, but on loving yourself and being proud of your own values.
Self-love is sexy, but it is very different from selfishness. Self-love means caring for your mental and physical health and being compassionate toward others.
I highly suggest you talk to a therapist or counselor about other ways you can authentically work to increase your confidence.
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