Author, journalist and Naval Intelligence Officer Ian Fleming once said, “Men want a woman whom they can turn on and off like a light switch.” Fleming is the creator of spy James Bond and “Bond Girls” like Honey Ryder, Domino, Jill Masterson, Vivienne Michel, Contessa Teresa “Tracy” di Vicenzo and, my personal favorite, Pussy Galore.
If there is anyone who knows about turning a woman on, it’s James Bond. Unfortunately for fellow man, Bond is a fictional character and his polished artistry of seducing a woman is just that — fiction.
So for those of us who live in the real world, what kind of advice is there for a man looking to turn on a woman?
1. Women are different from men.
The most important thing for a man to remember is that sex for a woman is much more complex than sex for a man. Men get turned on in seconds. It takes a woman several minutes. Kiss and touch her lightly, look into her eyes and tell her how much you love her. It sounds cheesy, but it works.
If you think you have the magic touch and can get her head lights on, you may be toying with love vs. lust. In any case, know what she will respond to quickest and get her as excited as you are.
2. Women love a man who listens.
It doesn’t matter if she’s talking about her dog’s hemorrhoids or an upcoming Napa Valley trip, listen, or at least pretend to listen. There is nothing sexier than a guy who can repeat something you said two weeks ago.
3. Just be an all-around nice guy.
Nothing wins a woman over like petting a dog on the street or playing with her niece or nephew. It’s a way to show off your potential paternal instincts as well as make your lady swoon and ready for the bedroom.
4. Make her feel beautiful.
Women want to be wanted and desired. When she calls, answer the phone, “Hey, gorgeous!” and make sure to compliment her without overdoing it. “That shirt really brings out the blue of your eyes” is appropriate. “That shirt makes your tits look awesome” is not.
Whether you’re looking to turn on your wife of 30 years or a woman you met just last week, following the ways of James Bond may get you points for creativity, but it won’t help you out in the bedroom.
Get back to the real world and show her you’re a good listener, touch her slowly and sensually, be an all-around nice guy and make her feel beautiful. Now, good luck turning her off!