Why Are Older Females Attracted to Me?

October 5, 2012
Why Are Older Females Attracted to Me?

Reader Question:

I’m now 34 years old and five years single. Most of my friends have a relationship but I don’t get out much. So I hit the dating sites but I get almost no answers. If a woman answers, she’s mostly older than me. This is a problem as I want children of my own one day.

Why are older females sometimes attracted to me and younger females not? How can I attract attractive young women? What are they looking for?

-Mike (Belgium)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Women and men look for basically the same thing in a romantic partner: health, kindness and intelligence. After that, men tend to prefer youth and beauty and women tend to prefer resource potential.

But the art of mating involves subtly displaying these traits without looking like you are bragging or flashy. At the same time, the mating dance involves care-giving behaviors (like opening doors or offering to do a favor for someone) without sacrificing so much that you look needy and desperate. Quite an art.

Finally, perhaps the most important aspect of the mating game is to know your target. Find a woman who is in the same financial class, looks class and age range as you. Sometimes men shoot a little lower and find a great mate who really appreciates them.


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Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013). Connect with her on Google+.

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2 Responses

    Hey, give an older woman a chance. After all it worked for Ashton and Demi…. oh, wait

    I thought Europeans were pretty good looking! No hot Belgian women out there??

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