Sometimes it seems like hot girls aren’t really cut out for long-term relationships. They may be easy on the eyes, but not so easy on the heart. Pretty girls often appear to come off as bitchy, emotionally cold and distant.
It’s not necessarily a “hot girl complex” but usually a result of her upbringing. Some hot women really struggle with relationships, but they’re not always the ones to blame. Here’s why:
1. As youngsters, pretty girls can become sexualized.
Even though they’re children, makeup, hair and dress-up draw sexual attention to them. They don’t know what it means but they still respond to this attention and embrace it.
The problem is that they aren’t mature enough to emotionally understand what this kind of attention means. They learn that this sexual attention gets them what they want. Therefore, it becomes reinforcing and their needs are met because of it.
2. They are more likely to be sexually abused as children.
And more often than not, sexual abuse is perpetrated by a loved one. In turn, it becomes extremely confusing and these women often mistrust love. This is a red flag! If a potential date reveals she has been sexually abused, it’s a good idea to make sure she’s sought out professional help to heal herself.
“If you’re looking for a loyal, trustworthy and completely
sane girlfriend, look at normal looking women.”
3. The “princess complex.”
I’m sure you’ve met plenty of these chicks, the ones who expect five-star dinners and Louis Vuittons. These women have had everything handed to them since they were young.
They were dependent on their parents and now they are replacing those parental figures with a man who will do the same. They may feel a sense of entitlement and expectancy.
4. They are less likely to ride out the rough spots.
So, when things get tough, a babe may walk out the door instead of work through the issues because she knows her value on the sexual market. Rather than learning good conflict resolution skills, she might think it’s easier to snag something bigger and better.
The moral of the story? If you’re looking for a loyal, trustworthy, kind and completely sane girlfriend, look at normal looking women. They have a statistical probability of fulfilling your dreams.
This article is so true and I will add something to it sometimes when you are too pretty good men see you as unapproachable . They are intimidate by you . that’s why the prettiest girl usually date the bad boy …Because he doesn’t really care about her .
As a “hot girl,” this article is so insulting, it is not even funny. As a professional, children are NOT sexually abused due to their looks- are you insane?
@Kathryn You lost credibility with me when you first referred to yourself as a “hot girl”. Conceited much?
I also think you missed the point about sexually-abused children. I think the writer was saying they’re *statistically more likely* to be abused. NOT that they are abused “because of their looks”. There’s a difference.
@vanessa I care to never refer to myself as a “hot girl;” however, that’s what the article has labeled women that are above-average looking, (the author’s words, not mine,) that being said, however, I am a model. In addition, I am also highly educated, enough so to know that there is no crediable statistics that reflect the author’s view that “hot girls” are more likely to be sexually abused as children.
This article does nothing except promote the same dog-eat-dog behaviors that are chided as the norm in interpersonal female-female relationships. Look at the final line- I am no less faithful, kind, warm, or “good,” because I look above-average, and no woman is anymore so if she is not average or above-average looking.
This article is so insanely insulting to women as a whole because it, once again, promotes the thought process that a woman’s worth is based upon her looks.
Hey there Kathryn! Dr. Wendy Walsh bases her articles and advice from extensive research for the general public to interpret in their own way.
There are always unique cases where some advice may not apply to each reader. We don’t mean to offend anyone, instead, we try to vary our advice in an attempt to represent a large number of people.
Feel free to ask Dr. Wendy a direct question on our Ask an Expert section: http://www.datingadvice.com/ask-an-expert
I wonder if Wendy considers herself to be pretty or hot? If so, I’m not sure I can believe her advice, as she would not be trustworthy or completely sane (as the article itself indicates).
I understand Kathryn point but I think this article is very general …I am an actress and a model .I don’t consider myself particularity hot but I take care of myself …I am crazy faithful , highly educated ( I speak several languages fluently ) and I am a very warm person ,I like to make everyone feel good around me…I was surprise but I wasn’t offended when I read this article because I knew this is NOT me …I think statistic can be wrong but their is no reason to be offended by them …
I always like to remind people that a “tendency” or a “statistical probability” does not mean that all people, every time present the behaviors I talk about. Is there a good chance that a big chunk of sexualized or sexually abused beautiful female children grow up to be a tad damaged and bring that damage into their adult romantic relationships? Yes! And there are others, like Marlene who turn out just fine.